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standbyme

HI!

Well I have had gential herpes for about 3yrs. I have told the partners that I frequently have sex with and who are used to having unprotected sex. Other men that i have been involved with I do not tell. I come up with some excuse on why I will not have sex with them or make them use a condem even though they really try not to. NEWAY...

I have been talking to a guy for about a month. Recently we have been becoming more physical with each other. I wasnt sure if i was having an outbreak or if it was just lingering from the previous week that one had ended and I didnt want to really do anything with him but once you get the touching its kinda hard to stop and to make the other person stop. This past week I have allowed him to touch me down in my private area with his hands and then coming up with something on why we can not have sex. This has happened twice this week. Yesterday I saw him and i noticed that he had a lot of bumps on his hands, mainly on the fingers he touched me with. I am very scared to tell him that maybe possibly that it could be herpes and that he got it from me. I know that he will not take it lightly and possibly spread that throughout our group of friends and possibly the community.

What I want to know is if that is it possible that he could have contacted the illness in that way? And how do I go about trying to disclouse this to him? I dont mind telling someone but I do not trust him with my secret and certainly do not trust what he may do knowing that he now may possibly have it. Please tell me what should I do!

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kt89

That sucks

i personally think you really need to tell him before he goes and touches some other girl. :-| if you think he has it he will probably not go around telling everyone that he got it from you because he doesnt want people knowing that he has it. Send an annonymous email or something saying that you need to go get checked for herpies on your fingers lol .

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JBnATL

Fraid so

Yes, it could be herpes whitlow. You should tell him immediately because he not only could give it to another woman, but to himself oral or genital.

You should be telling all your partners. Using condoms is no guarantee that you cannot infect someone else.

Good luck!

JB

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jericho
Yes, it could be herpes whitlow. You should tell him immediately because he not only could give it to another woman, but to himself oral or genital.

It's hard to make an online diagnosis. But JB is right, it could be whitlow. And he's also right that this guy needs to know YESTERDAY that he might have herpes whitlow b/c it will be very easy to transfer it from his fingers to his mouth, genitals or eyes - all places where our fingers go! And since he just acquired it, he won't have the antibodies to prevent this autoinoculation.

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