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tlt0109

Hello everybody--I'm new to this site, in need of help. I just ended things with my fiance. He gave me genital herpes and HPV. I was diagnosed on my 40th birthday back in January and stayed with him because I didn't think anybody would want me with 2 STDs, so I stayed with him despite the abuse heaped upon me. I just finally got so tired of being put down so much, for so long, that I told myself that if I stayed single for the rest of my life, it would be better than what I was dealing with. I'm so ashamed, and so sad. I'm having a really hard time with this. :cry:

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JBnATL

I don't know about HPV

But I do know you can live a health full life with genital herpes. I know this for a fact because I do. I have had this virus many years and have dated many non h women with no problems.

There are many informative articles here that you should read. The more you know about this virus the more you will see how harmless it mostly is.

Good luck!

JB

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Shayna

Hi tlt0109, welcome to the forum!

I'm glad you found this site! I know it helped me when I felt the feelings you are describing now. I hope it helps you to know that this place, and the people here, helped me feel better! There is a wonderful community here with a lot of knowledge about hsv. I hope you stick around, there is a lot of healing that happens here.

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TinyCHILD

First of all I would like to welcome you to this perfect site that will guide you thru your pain and sorrows, We all might be down somethings but we all get thru it day by day. support from one an other is the first process. But we all live life to the fullest because there is so much to do out there, we aint dead yet and ski diving sounds like fun! I hope you stay and read other threads and learn from each other!

yours truly,

TC <~~~~I like that nick name Shanya gave it to me and it fits well hehehe

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countrychick

Hi tlt0109. I read this and another one of your other threads and my story is a bit similar to yours. My ex boyfriend knew he had herpes and gave it to me and I stayed with him for a couple months because I didnt think anyone else would want me because I had it. And I am still having a hard time dealing with the fact that I feel like I cant have a normal sex/love life anymore. I havent dated anyone since. And like you I feel the same way you do so ashamed and so sad. But I am very happy I found this site and I dont feel as much alone anymore after reading some of the threads. We can get through this together

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Butterfly of the Moment

Hi there, you definately aren't alone...hpv is even more common in woman than genital herpes...I myself have hpv, and oral and genital herpes (I don't know yet whether my genital herpes is type 1 or type 2)...so I have more on my plate so to speak so that's like a triple whammy...and I can attribute these to 2 guys that I was with...a lot of men and women have hpv and don't know it...same as with genital herpes...so if you ever date a sexually active male, he probably already has something...I would suggest getting him tested before you take things further.

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