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doover

I am concerned about passing "H" to another person. I am so concerned that I am afraid to have sex. I do not want to give this virus to anther person!

My outbreaks are on the head of my penis. By using condoms and suppresive medication(Valtrex). Should this protect a partner from reveiving "H", especially if I am shedding?

I've read that the shedding comes from the area of the outbreaks. Is this true?

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Lookonthesunnyside

Hey doover, totally understand where you're coming from. I dated a guy for a couple months and never actually slept with him because I had such bad anxiety over passing this to him. I think one important thing is to wait before you feel you've come to terms with this before engaging in a sexual relationship. For me, I was still trying to deal with this on my own, so the thought of possibly giving this to someone else and dealing with the repercussions and the guilt was unbearable.

I think generally shedding does occur from the original area you had your ob, but it definitely can occur in other spots as well. The whole boxer short region is fair game. (Including the inner thighs which scares the crap out of me).

However, with all the talk about asymptomatic shedding, it is actually unlikely to spread this without any symptoms. Are you familiar with transmission statistics that have been published? In a year of regular sex without any antivirals and any condom use, while avoiding sex during outbreaks the transmission rates are as follows:

10 out of 100 neg girls with a positive male partner will get it. (So 90% success rate of NOT passing it)

4 out of 100 neg guys with a positive female partner will get it.

Add condoms and valtrex (if you choose), and the chances of passing this are actually very slim. The majority of people who contract herpes contract it from someone who does not know their status and is having sex during obs, not recognizing their symptoms for what they are. Aside from sleeping with someone who is negative for both types (which is actually a minority), sleeping with someone who knows they have it puts you at the lowest risk.

Also, there is a 25% chance that any girl you meet will already have it. And up to an 80% chance that they'll already have type 1.

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Wishing Well

I feel the same way and agree you have to wait until you have made peace slash are comfortable with it yourself.

These statistics make me feel unlucky for catching it in the first place.

Be aware and cautious though you should be safe. Still inform your partner regardless though.

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doover

Thanks for the respnse. I feel a little better just from reading your replies, also I think I will take it slow. I am still coming to grips with having this virus.

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TwoOrangeBananas

(Including the inner thighs which scares the crap out of me).

Hey sunnyside,

Out of curiosity...why does an OB on the inner thighs scare the crap out of you?

(I ask bc that's unfortunately where my recurring OBs happen)

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Lookonthesunnyside

Oh, it just scares me because when ur having sex that area is obviously exposed, especially when ur a girl. So even with a condom there's all that space that could be shedding. Ya know? I donno if it makes much difference with transmission rates on where you shed. But it still freaks me out :???:

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