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i just began my first year in college. this is supposed to be the best time of my life and now i think i have this horrible burden to deal with. i understand that it isn't as bad as i think but i could really use some encouragement. so this is what happened.

a little over three months ago i went to the doctor and got tested for the "normal" std's. i had just switched razors so i wasn't too shocked to see a few little bumps show up... the only problem was that they stayed there. so i felt like shit about myself but decided to not think about it and just go on with my life. me and some of my friends went to the club one night and i saw one of my older guy friends there. we started getting really cozy and he offered to take me home. wrong. he took me to his house so i could "sober up" before going home. he was a friend so i trusted him. we layed in bed and watched a movie and then he started getting frisky and i told him i didn't want to do anything. he didn't really care and just figured i was drunk. i started crying becuase i had just gotten tested and i didn't want to deal with the horrible feelings you have after meaningless sex. so the next week i started getting really nervous after hearing about how much of a **** this guy was from my other friends and went back to the doctor. i started crying and telling her about the "bumps" and the sex and basically my whole life story (she was really scared. i was freaking the hell out) and she took a look. she said there was no way that those little bumps could be herpes. so she comforted me and gave me so really generic facts about herpes (giant blisters. won't be able to sit down. you know, all that bullshit that doctors say) and then sent me on my way. i was so relieved! but then... they didn't go away. they were still there and recently two more have showed up. so i started doing more research and freaking out a lot. i had a lot of the symptoms but things just didn't add up. they still don't. i'm too afraid to go get tested. so i guess i just have some questions. is it normal to have an outbreak for like 3 months? could this be something else?

i really love this site. you all seem so wonderful and any help you could offer would be appreciated.

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Honestly...I don't think you can have a ob for 3 months. If you are really scared you can go get tested...i know that is nerve racking..but I'm sure your doctor is right. These seem like small bumps..I remember when I first had an ob...i had small bumps..whiched turned into huge ass blisters. I was soo swollen down there i couldn't tell I was a girl. It hurt to walk...and you feel really weak. You usually get the "flu" like systoms...aches, pains, want to sleep a fever. I remember my fever was 103. I had that kind of a fever for 3 days and that was before I decided to go to the doctor. If you have been reading up on herpes..thats good cause then you will know what to look for. But honestly you should go to the doctor and get the test...you have to ask for the herpes test though. I hope you figure everything out...good luck!

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you should get it looked at again at least for ur own peace of mind u could be torturing yourself for nothing, or it could be some thing else, something curable. its best to know for sure. good luck i hope you end up not having herpes.

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Uncertainty is the worst

If you do not see a doctor and get tested, you will go on feeling as you do and will worry about it. If you do have herpes, it is better to be able to get some meds and ease the pain. A blood test is accurate at least 3 months from exposure so you might want to get another test in 3 months. You need to go right away if you want to get a swab test because the swab test is only accurate at the height of the outbreak. Try an STD clinic or Planned Parenthood. It might turn out that you don't have herpes and that would be a big relief for you. But if you do, you can learn to manage it and you can get some meds to help clear up the outbreak, and maybe some lidocaine to ease the pain of the outbreak. And certainty is always easier to deal with than uncertainty.

As for the doctor, she could just be ignorant, because MOST people who have herpes do not have symptoms or have very mild symptoms. That is why so many people have it and so many people pass it on unknowingly. There is a wide variety of symptoms experienced by herpes infected people, ranging from horrendously painful to painful to barely noticeable to nothing at all.

You might want to read my post Doctor Dictionary (you'll have to search for it under Personal Experiences) which explains that doctors do not always diagnose herpes when they suspect it.

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      It doesnt really mean much yet. They still dont know if the herpes is taking advantage of a diseased brain or causing the disease. Furthermore, there is evidence that Alzheimer's might be caused by oral spirochete disease and even Lyme. Many of you could have oral Spirochetes but the Lyme and is less likely. https://globallymealliance.org/pathogen-cause-alzheimers-disease/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5008232/ https://newsblog.drexel.edu/2016/02/10/do-infections-cause-alzheimers-disease/   Of course it could be both! Maybe having hsv-1 and oral spirochetes quadruples the risk.  In my opinion the spirochete theory sounds more likely and its hard to dismiss neurosurgeons and caretakers getting Alzheimers from a disease that was previously thought to be non contagious. I'd worry more about Spirochetes.  
    • Rgs77
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    • honkschonks
      I wonder if people in the military are tested for hsv, because the general public isn’t. You have to specifically ask for it and many doctors don’t even see the point because it’s “so common”. It’s very possible he has it and has no symptoms or very mild random symptoms. Sorry to hear what you’re dealing with. It seems like women’s symptoms are worse than men’s.
    • WilsoInAus
      No that’s not the issue at all. The absolute vast majority of nerve pain is not caused by herpes. Hence it cannot be used to reverse engineer a diagnosis of herpes. That is exceptinally dangerous and we must do all we can encourage proper diagnosis.
    • ill47
      Do you have an APOE4 gene? I do. I also have HSV-2, which so far hasn't been linked to dementia. Itzhaki previously found that cold sores occur more frequently in those who carry a gene variant that confers increased risk of Alzheimer’s called APOE-ε4. "Our theory is that in APOE-ε4 carriers, reactivation is more frequent or more harmful in HSV1-infected brain cells, which as a result accumulate damage that culminates in development of Alzheimer's," she said.

      So basically, if you carry the APOE4 gene and have oral HSV-1, you chances of dementia could be quite high. But if you have APOE4, your chances of dementia were higher already. Look, 80% of the population has HSV-1. 80% of the population does not get dementia. You also seem to skip over the fact that antiviral treatment can reduce the increased chances of dementia to almost nothing. "The striking results include evidence that the risk of senile dementia is much greater in those who are infected with HSV, and that anti-herpes antiviral treatment causes a dramatic decrease in number of those subjects severely affected by HSV1 who later develop dementia," Itzhaki said. The data from Taiwan only applies to the rare severe HSV1 or VZV infections. The next step will be to study dementia rates amongst people with mild HSV1 infections, including herpes labialis or mild genital herpes. "Considering that over 150 publications strongly support an HSV1 role in Alzheimer's, these Taiwan findings greatly justify usage of antiherpes antivirals - which are safe and well-tolerated - to treat Alzheimer's disease,” Itzhaki said."They also incentivize development of an HSV1 vaccine, which would likely be the most effective treatment." I think it behooves you to do your research and actually read the articles you are posting before pulling the alarm and trying to scare people. 

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