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:DHey... I'm new to the site, and I'm really interested to see what I will find and learn. I've actually had herpes for a little over a year now, I was 18 when I got it. At first I was so devasted, but now I'm all smiles. I thought my life was over, and I wouldn't live the life I dreamed of, but I am living such a great normal life, and it's cool lol. Not many people know I have herpes except for two of my friends, and they're really cool about it, but there is a guy I really like and he likes me too, but I refuse to accpet his offer to go out with him, because I don't know how to tell him that I have herpes, and I'm scarred of what he will think. It would be nice to hear to talk with someone who could relate.

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Hey there, I think it would be okay if you went on a date or two with him...that way you get a chance to get to know him better and see if he is trustworthy or if he is "worth" telling. The thing is, he doesn't know you have genital herpes and he won't if you don't tell him. If you go out with him and find he is not trustworthy or someone you thought you liked, then you can end it, and you won't feel bad b/c he doesn't know you have it. Also, when you do tell him, it's best to do it in a calm manner and make sure you have the facts straight so that when he asks you questions you'll be able to answer them. Another poster on here used this similar line: "There's something I think you should know about me, but I ask that you keep an open mind." Tell him that you really like him, and understand if he's hesitant to begin a relationship with you, but ask him to do some research. Give him this website. If a man cares about you and not just likes you, then he'll give you a chance by at least listening to everything you have to say and do research on his own...he'll find a way if he really wants to be with you. Besides this, the female to male transmission rate is very low...and if you use condoms and don't have sex during outbreaks and take suppressive medicine (if you're not comfortable doing it don't) then he only has a 1% chance of getting the virus.

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    • Trace67
      It doesnt really mean much yet. They still dont know if the herpes is taking advantage of a diseased brain or causing the disease. Furthermore, there is evidence that Alzheimer's might be caused by oral spirochete disease and even Lyme. Many of you could have oral Spirochetes but the Lyme and is less likely. https://globallymealliance.org/pathogen-cause-alzheimers-disease/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5008232/ https://newsblog.drexel.edu/2016/02/10/do-infections-cause-alzheimers-disease/   Of course it could be both! Maybe having hsv-1 and oral spirochetes quadruples the risk.  In my opinion the spirochete theory sounds more likely and its hard to dismiss neurosurgeons and caretakers getting Alzheimers from a disease that was previously thought to be non contagious. I'd worry more about Spirochetes.  
    • Rgs77
      Did ldn work.
    • honkschonks
      I wonder if people in the military are tested for hsv, because the general public isn’t. You have to specifically ask for it and many doctors don’t even see the point because it’s “so common”. It’s very possible he has it and has no symptoms or very mild random symptoms. Sorry to hear what you’re dealing with. It seems like women’s symptoms are worse than men’s.
    • WilsoInAus
      No that’s not the issue at all. The absolute vast majority of nerve pain is not caused by herpes. Hence it cannot be used to reverse engineer a diagnosis of herpes. That is exceptinally dangerous and we must do all we can encourage proper diagnosis.
    • ill47
      Do you have an APOE4 gene? I do. I also have HSV-2, which so far hasn't been linked to dementia. Itzhaki previously found that cold sores occur more frequently in those who carry a gene variant that confers increased risk of Alzheimer’s called APOE-ε4. "Our theory is that in APOE-ε4 carriers, reactivation is more frequent or more harmful in HSV1-infected brain cells, which as a result accumulate damage that culminates in development of Alzheimer's," she said.

      So basically, if you carry the APOE4 gene and have oral HSV-1, you chances of dementia could be quite high. But if you have APOE4, your chances of dementia were higher already. Look, 80% of the population has HSV-1. 80% of the population does not get dementia. You also seem to skip over the fact that antiviral treatment can reduce the increased chances of dementia to almost nothing. "The striking results include evidence that the risk of senile dementia is much greater in those who are infected with HSV, and that anti-herpes antiviral treatment causes a dramatic decrease in number of those subjects severely affected by HSV1 who later develop dementia," Itzhaki said. The data from Taiwan only applies to the rare severe HSV1 or VZV infections. The next step will be to study dementia rates amongst people with mild HSV1 infections, including herpes labialis or mild genital herpes. "Considering that over 150 publications strongly support an HSV1 role in Alzheimer's, these Taiwan findings greatly justify usage of antiherpes antivirals - which are safe and well-tolerated - to treat Alzheimer's disease,” Itzhaki said."They also incentivize development of an HSV1 vaccine, which would likely be the most effective treatment." I think it behooves you to do your research and actually read the articles you are posting before pulling the alarm and trying to scare people. 

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