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I live out in Newfoundland, and I'm almost 18. I work, but still haven't made any friends in the 6 months that I've lived here. I find it harder now, to make friends knowing that I have herpes (a month and a week). I know its no ones business, but if I meet somebody, I feel like I'm keeping a secret, even though its really none of their business.

For somebody who does not have it, most likely don't know a lot about it, I've seen/heard peoples reactions to genital herpes, and their reactions are disgust, resentment. They believe the myths about genital herpes, like being spread from toilet seats. Like all or most of us with this virus, want someone to relate to, to share stories with, share experiences, and give advice to each other. Thats what I need, a good friend besides my partner who can understand what I'm going through. I know there are people out there that don't have it and can be understanding but I'd prefer someone who can empathize too.

Does anybody else feel like this? I imagine so...I'm going crazy, what I need are a circle of friends, ones with herpes preferably :) .

I know I'm not the only one going through this, but I am doing this alone. If you live in Newfoundland, send me a message!!

Does anybody else feel alone, and feel that the people around them have no clue what HSV is :), and don't care!!

If you're going through what I am, I want to listen to what your going through. Thank God for people like us. :)

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I know the personal touch is better, but use this site as a substitute as much as you can. There are hundreds of us active here.

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Hey XCocoX,

Sorry, can't say I live in Newfoundland. However, there are tons of us out there who know what you're going through physically and emotionally and are here for you.

I understand the feeling of wanting to be around other people who know what you am going through. Although I have told one of my close friends (who does not have herpes) about my HSV-II, I still want the comfort of speaking with others who know the pain and frustration of what I am dealing with.

However, let me also add that telling my "non-herpes" friend about my HSV was so therapeutic. She was gentle, understanding, sympathetic, and has even offered to be my roommate in my search for a new apartment. These are things I never thought a non-infected person would do upon hearing of my "affliction." It has really bolstered my self-esteem and made me realize that there are many wonderful and non-judgmental people out there, both in platonic relationships and romantic ones too.

As far as feeling alone in Newfoundland, have you tried searching online to see if there are local support groups that you can visit? I know that living in the outskirts of Los Angeles makes it easy to find one in such a huge metropolis, but there can potentially be some nearby you as well! And if not, it's like Mr. Honest says: this site can work as well for support.

Hope we can help to brighten your day.

Take care!

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    • Gems
      I've had neg swabs but I am sure you'll get it. Follow the process. I haven't read the thread in exact detail, but if you have documentation of doctors mishandling your case when you get/ if you get a poss inform them in writing as well as the medical board I think.  Under diagnosis is as problematic as false pos and reducing transmission is good.
    • MikeIke
      @WilsoInAusi wish you were right.  you can't say that with such confidence having never met me though.  I had one MD look at my sore on Sunday @ 8pm, said it was not looking herpetic but to come back in the morning.  I came back in the morning and he said it looked exactly like a cold sore/HSV1 based on the changes / "ablative look" to the skin around the lip.  The Dermatologists have never seen me with a sore until yesterday, too, and had only seen pictures.  They're used to the classic HSV2 look that shows up in Google Images. I think the swab test will be definitive - we broke open the sore and sent it off within  48 hours of appearing.  I'm also waiting for my 13 week IGG type specific HerpeSelect Immunoblot any day now using RequestATest - LabCorp.
    • Gems
      Not really wanting to call Terry.  I'll be checking the term anecdotal as I agree it may not be the best term. Maryland University seems to disagree and there was a researcher looking into random transmissions off poss objects in the eighties.

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      I'm collecting the less than usual experiences Wilson, and not all professionals agree with Terry. These myths in my experience do not always get around with no basis.
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      You can use the ignore button however they will still see your comments.
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      The thread was more about antibodies any ways and I was just mostly sharing my experience of reading  those who claim a neg IgG. I am sorry I veered from that here.

      One person I have read here claim neg IgG. And years ago there were two people who also claimed neg IgG.

      It is up to each person to do their own research before they spend money on products.  

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