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I will never be the same again...the biggest mistake of my life has left me with more than regret. I cheated on my husband of eight yrs in may and then again in july and august and ended up catching herpes from my boyfriend. Whch I jst found this out by having my first outbreak which had me laying in bed with a 102 fever and my body hurt so bad I wanted to cry. As far as I know I have not passed it to my husband and I hope never do he has decided to forgive me and make things work as he has cheated before and I stayed along. I more or less cheated to pay him back than anything because I wanted to prove that when u cheat u dont stop loving the person u r in love with. At least if u have no feelings for the lover at all. I feel so stupid now for wanting to get revenge and Me ending up gettn the worse revenge of all. I hate myslf for what I did and allowed to happen and this is like the worst thing I could have imagined happening. I am trying to cope and take all this in but Im struggling at this point I feel like giving up I dont know of nethng I can do to ever make this better, I love my husband and I do not want to lose him but I struggle with insecurtiy and dont feel like he can ever really love me. That I knw I need to fix but I dont know how too jst yet. How do I fogive myslf in order to accept my husbands forgivness and move on in our marriage with both our indecrestions behind us and then the herpes wil stay with me n maybe us forever. Thats the part so hard to get over.

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The herpes is the least important thing in this whole situation.

I am just three months out of a broken marriage that will never be repaired. My 20th anniversary would have been tomorrow.

For both of you to have done this you must have other issues. In my opinion the problem is bigger than you can handle, otherwise you would have fixed it already. I would recommend going to a counselor. Making the time for counseling is important.

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Mrhonest - is right! Forget about Herpes for a moment - you need to take a good look at your marriage and see if you can fix it or not.

Herpes is only on the top of the list coz its painful to your body right now - overshadowing the pain you feel in your soul already for a long time....

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Marrage is a wonderful thing until we mess it up. Love is deeper than many people thing and can forgive and move forward. Herpes however is forever and now your faced with the terrible memory of what 15 mins excitment can bring. I wish you and your husband the best and hope and pray that soon there is an end to this terrible illness, till then eat right, live right, and think right.

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    • Trace67
      It doesnt really mean much yet. They still dont know if the herpes is taking advantage of a diseased brain or causing the disease. Furthermore, there is evidence that Alzheimer's might be caused by oral spirochete disease and even Lyme. Many of you could have oral Spirochetes but the Lyme and is less likely. https://globallymealliance.org/pathogen-cause-alzheimers-disease/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5008232/ https://newsblog.drexel.edu/2016/02/10/do-infections-cause-alzheimers-disease/   Of course it could be both! Maybe having hsv-1 and oral spirochetes quadruples the risk.  In my opinion the spirochete theory sounds more likely and its hard to dismiss neurosurgeons and caretakers getting Alzheimers from a disease that was previously thought to be non contagious. I'd worry more about Spirochetes.  
    • Rgs77
      Did ldn work.
    • honkschonks
      I wonder if people in the military are tested for hsv, because the general public isn’t. You have to specifically ask for it and many doctors don’t even see the point because it’s “so common”. It’s very possible he has it and has no symptoms or very mild random symptoms. Sorry to hear what you’re dealing with. It seems like women’s symptoms are worse than men’s.
    • WilsoInAus
      No that’s not the issue at all. The absolute vast majority of nerve pain is not caused by herpes. Hence it cannot be used to reverse engineer a diagnosis of herpes. That is exceptinally dangerous and we must do all we can encourage proper diagnosis.
    • ill47
      Do you have an APOE4 gene? I do. I also have HSV-2, which so far hasn't been linked to dementia. Itzhaki previously found that cold sores occur more frequently in those who carry a gene variant that confers increased risk of Alzheimer’s called APOE-ε4. "Our theory is that in APOE-ε4 carriers, reactivation is more frequent or more harmful in HSV1-infected brain cells, which as a result accumulate damage that culminates in development of Alzheimer's," she said.

      So basically, if you carry the APOE4 gene and have oral HSV-1, you chances of dementia could be quite high. But if you have APOE4, your chances of dementia were higher already. Look, 80% of the population has HSV-1. 80% of the population does not get dementia. You also seem to skip over the fact that antiviral treatment can reduce the increased chances of dementia to almost nothing. "The striking results include evidence that the risk of senile dementia is much greater in those who are infected with HSV, and that anti-herpes antiviral treatment causes a dramatic decrease in number of those subjects severely affected by HSV1 who later develop dementia," Itzhaki said. The data from Taiwan only applies to the rare severe HSV1 or VZV infections. The next step will be to study dementia rates amongst people with mild HSV1 infections, including herpes labialis or mild genital herpes. "Considering that over 150 publications strongly support an HSV1 role in Alzheimer's, these Taiwan findings greatly justify usage of antiherpes antivirals - which are safe and well-tolerated - to treat Alzheimer's disease,” Itzhaki said."They also incentivize development of an HSV1 vaccine, which would likely be the most effective treatment." I think it behooves you to do your research and actually read the articles you are posting before pulling the alarm and trying to scare people. 

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