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jennrill

how to help my partner?

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jennrill

i'm really depressed right n0w...h'e pushing me away...but i love him and wanted to help...but he's to0 negative about his situation... and our situation in the future...i really love him that i can't just sit here letting him handle the situation...i know he loves me also that is why he's pushing me away for me not to be affected...

please help guys....i need your enlightenment about this situation....

thank you and God bless....

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JBnATL

Have him come here

He probably knows very little about the virus. Have him come here and read all the information available. The more he knows the more he will realize that this, for the most part, is a harmless little virus.

And point him to the success stories section of the forum and let him read how others have successfully coped with this and have gone on to live normal healthy lives.

Tell him to come to the chat room and see all the other people just like him who have it.

Good luck!

JB

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Prinny973

bring him to this forum and let him explore...he'll be fine...he just needs to get used to it

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gotitsowhat

What type?

What kind of herpes does he have? How much does he know about it? Does he realize that herpes is fairly normal and that most people carry some form of this virus. Even the stigmatized genital kind of herpes is fairly common; one in four women and one in five men.

Give him some information for when he is ready to read it. And then give him time. Sometimes it is hard for an uninfected person to understand just how tough a herpes diagnosis can be. Let him process it without any pressure.

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GECH

I'm here to learn about Herpes. I don't have any STDs, but the man I love has Herpes. His feeling is my biggest concern right now. He doesn't talk much about his feeling. He's really quiet. But, I guess he's suffering a lot of emotional pains. I think I can sense something in his eyes.

Joining this forum and reading posts from other members help me a lot. I hope I could understand more about the pain and suffering that people with Herpes are dealing with. I don't have much dating experience. I don't know what I should say or what I should do to support him. I really want him to be happy. I want him to know that no matter what he has, I still love and support him. I'll be on his side whenever he needs me.

Any help? I really appreciate it.

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