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stupidgirl23

i feel so alone...i just want to talk to some one who is going threw what i am going threw....i was diagnosed a month ago...i am married and i have a kid....i have not told my husband yet...but i am trying to but i am so scared that he will take the baby from me....i need help

Deborah

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Butterfly of the Moment

It's possible that you got herpes from him or you had it for a long time and only now got an outbreak. Since you are married and love eachother (hopefully) I don't think he would take your child away from you (don't let him)...having herpes has nothing to do with it. I think you should tell him you have been experiencing strange symptoms "down there" and you are going to the doctor to get tested.

I just read your other post, if you cheated on him and he already forgave you, then telling him you have herpes shouldn't be that big of a stretch. It's very important you tell him before you have sex with him again. Tell him asap. How is your marriage now since you've cheated on him? DO NOT do this again if he forgives you for the herpes thing. You could be depriving him of someone who will remain faithful and love him the way he was meant to be loved if you stay with him and repeatedly hurt him whether he knows it or not. Tell him you've noticed some symptoms and went in for testing (hope you did) and that you were diagnosed with genital herpes. Tell him you are sorry that any of this had to happen and that you are willing to do what it takes to prevent passing it on to him whether it be using a condom (avoid sex during outbreaks too) and taking suppressive medicine like valtrex or acyclovir. Take lysine or olive leaf as well. Good Luck.

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gotitsowhat

Just tell him

before it goes on too long and he is angry that you had sex with him and did not tell him. Having hsv is no proof that you or he did anything wrong. Lots of people have herpes for years with no symptoms and then, usually during a stressful time, it appears as an outbreak. No one meant to pass this on intentionally, right? So no one is to blame and you mustn't feel that you are. If he is a good man and this is a good relationship, he should be able to accept it.

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devastatedbythis

stupid girl

I wish you would change that name you are not stupid. Next why havent you told your husband are you sure he did not give it to you? The longer you wait to tell him the more "reason" he would have to try and take your daughter.

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FaithfulOne
i feel so alone...i just want to talk to some one who is going threw what i am going threw....i was diagnosed a month ago...i am married and i have a kid....i have not told my husband yet...but i am trying to but i am so scared that he will take the baby from me....i need help

Deborah

Are you afraid of telling because you have been unfaithful? or just scared for another reason.

I too was in a very similar situation about a week ago.....A littleover a week now....but I immediately told my hubby and he was angry at first because he assumed I ha cheated, but we quickly resolved that....and as long as BOTH of you have been faithful, then there really is no big deal....(my opinion of course) But that is what we finally concluded....as long as the virus was brought into the relationship, from the beginning,there is no problems with"us"...

If you need to talk, I am here....You can IM me if you would like and I will do my best to help you out....

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