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Julie29

I just started dating this guy I really like but how do I tell him I have herpes with out messing everything up with him.

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justmyself

I would suggest first waiting until things are ready to move in the direction of sex. Make sure he is someone who is trustworthy and won't go around telling people that you don't want to know.

There are suggestions on this page on how to tell someone. Read other's posts on how they have told others. Google "how to tell someone you have herpes." And it isn't the end of the world if you get rejected. It just means they weren't worth your time!

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IBelongtoMe

Don't Fret

Take it from me, its scary! But, if he's worth your time, he'll be fine. I just told my partner on Tuesday and didn't speak to him for 2 days and last night saw him and he gave me a big hug. But I agree, wait until things move towards sex.

It's scary - TRUST ME! I FREAKED - but it turned out to be for nothing because he didn't freak like I thought he would and he seemed okay when I saw him last night.

Wait for the right moment. Don't do right before you're about to have sex. Don't do it after. Be straight forward. Have statistics ready to give him on how common it is and give him time to let it sink in. We are here for you.

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