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sixdollardress

Kissing - And Swimming?

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sixdollardress

Hey everyone - I just have one or two burning (haha) questions I've been trying to find good answers to, since I first got diagnosed:

1) I have HSV-2 Orally. Does this mean that I have to have "The Talk" with potential partners before I do so much as kiss them, in the future? I'm on Valtrex to control my shedding. It's just so depressing to think that even the spontaneity of a good night kiss will be something I have to watch out for, in the future. And what about with kids? I have a little stepsister who likes to run up and kiss me (she's 6) - and I worry about kissing my own children, when I have them. Is this something that's going to be a problem for the rest of my life?

2) I also love to swim - can I still do this, when I'm not having an active outbreak? I'm speaking of swimming in a chlorinated pool. My gut feeling says that the chlorine will kill any virus I release into it, but I'm worried about spreading it this way, anyway.

Thanks so much to anyone with any input. <3

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Butterfly of the Moment

Hey there,

You don't HAVE to have "the talk" with any potential partners...but you should. The thing is, the virus sheds even when there are no symptoms so you can pass the virus on that way...even though the risk is really low for them to catch it from you since you are on valtrex and type 2 sheds less in the oral region. We now know that oral herpes can be spread to the genitals if you perform oral sex. Simply ask the person if they've ever had a coldsore, and explain to them what it is and that you have it. Most people won't be deterred from kissing you. I have to say I've had type 1 coldsores for years and have kissed without disclosing and only now since joining this forum have I considered the implications. The stigma is super strong for the genital variety and not so much the oral even though it's caused by the same virus. Sucks.

Also you are perfectly safe to swim in a pool...the virus needs direct contact (skin to skin) for transmission. The chlorine would kill it.

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sixdollardress

Oh, I couldn't imagine doing anything sexual beyond kissing (ie, oral etc) without having the talk - just because I would never want to expose anyone to the hell I'm currently going through, without their knowlege. x.x

I guess I just wondered how likely it was to spread it - but...yes. I guess I'll judge each situation as it comes, but it's comforting to know that the risk is low. And about the swimming thing - thanks a bunch. :D

Hey there,

You don't HAVE to have "the talk" with any potential partners...but you should. The thing is, the virus sheds even when there are no symptoms so you can pass the virus on that way...even though the risk is really low for them to catch it from you since you are on valtrex and type 2 sheds less in the oral region. We now know that oral herpes can be spread to the genitals if you perform oral sex. Simply ask the person if they've ever had a coldsore, and explain to them what it is and that you have it. Most people won't be deterred from kissing you. I have to say I've had type 1 coldsores for years and have kissed without disclosing and only now since joining this forum have I considered the implications. The stigma is super strong for the genital variety and not so much the oral even though it's caused by the same virus. Sucks.

Also you are perfectly safe to swim in a pool...the virus needs direct contact (skin to skin) for transmission. The chlorine would kill it.

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