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isobel

I have to fill out a self-assessment medical form for a fellowship to study abroad. I don't know if it's asking me to mention herpes in it but I'm not sure. I really don't want to, but its a year long program that covers its own medical care. I'm afraid of it counting against me somehow. It asks questions like "What diseases, ailments or injuries have you had in the past five years?" and "Have you ever been diagnosed and/or treated for any other illness or condition previously undisclosed on this Medical Form" and then... "If you are currently taking, or have taken in the last five years, any prescription medication, other than oral contraceptives, please give details (including medication's name, purpose, and dates taken)." I have a Valtrex prescription but I haven't been taking it recently. Help!

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clover

Whoa. Don't know what advice to give you about this.

Why do you think they are asking you this? To rule out people who have a history of illness? Like cancer and heart problems?

Do you think that if your honest the word will get out about you having herpes in the program?

Do you plan on taking valtrex during the year aboard? If you would want them to cover this medical cost maybe it would be good to put it in there????

:confused: Sorry I don't have the answer for you. :confused:

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JBnATL

Honesty is always the best option

Herpes should not affect your work, so it should not be a barrier for you getting your fellowship.

I would go ahead and list it.

Good luck!

JB

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gotitsowhat

Medically, it's minor

For most of us here, the worst thing about herpes is the social stigma, not the reaction of medical people. I would list it. You might need medical coverage and it could help. In most European countries, I have heard that herpes doesn't have quite the bad reputation it does in north America. Of course, before I listed anything at all, I would want some assurance that my information would be kept carefully, reliably confidential.

When I listed hsv2GH on my annual medical assessment form at the employee's clinic at my job (a first for me after having it for 14 years and working where I work for 9 years), the nurse who worked there told me that she had worked at the hospital where I work for decades and it was the first time anyone had ever checked that off on the form. She was well aware of how afraid people are to admit they have it. And there are over 800 people working here! Amazing--I am the only person with herpes out of the hundreds of people in the hospital. Hmmmm....Or the only one in the last 20 years or so who has been willing to admit it on a medical form!

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isobel

thanks

Thanks for all the advice. The program is in Japan, so I guess I'm worried because I don't know how it's viewed there. Or how they feel about foreigners who have it coming over. I think the Japanese have some customs surrounding cleanliness? I could be wrong. But if they do that might affect how they treat people with HSV or HIV? Any Japanese experts out there?

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justmyself

My boyfriend went to school for 3 years in Japan. I will ask him for you.

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justmyself

I just read this on this website:

In some countries, such as Japan and parts of Great Britain, genital HSV-1 is as common as genital HSV-2, or more common.

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artgirl87

I wouldn't list it if I were you. You may know that its not a huge medical issue and won't affect your work, but the people who are reading your application probably do not unless they are hsv+ themselves. My understanding is that most fellowship grants are really really really hard to get. I wouldn't want a herpes stigma to stand in your way...its sad but true that most of society views people with herpes as disgusting. It may even make people think you're irresponsible. If you won't be taking the valtrex there and know that you won't need medical coverage/attention for the hsv, I wouldn't feel too bad about not listing it. However, I could see if you are planning on taking the valtrex with you where that would be dangerous not to list it, because if something happens they would need to know any meds you're on in an emergency. Otherwise it shouldn't affect anything else medically related so I wouldn't worry about it if you're not going to take the valtrex with you.

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aliveandok

Just an idea:

You could write cold sores and then write Valtrex.

They don't need to know where your cold sores are and if you can get free or cheaper Valtrex when you need it it may be helpful.

Weigh all our answers against your own gut though and do what is best for YOU. No need to be super truthful if it will hurt you. Everyone white lies on medical forms.

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justmyself

You could always not say anything and if a herpes issue comes up when you are there and you need medical attention for it, you can pretend you didn't know you had it or didn't have it before.

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gotitsowhat

Good idea

Just an idea:

You could write cold sores and then write Valtrex.

They don't need to know where your cold sores are and if you can get free or cheaper Valtrex when you need it it may be helpful.

Weigh all our answers against your own gut though and do what is best for YOU. No need to be super truthful if it will hurt you. Everyone white lies on medical forms.

That way you'd be covered for Valtrex if you needed it while you were there. I think we should be able to list our medical stuff on medical forms but I can understand that you might not want to endanger the fellowship grant.

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