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Just to clarify (Oral Sex)...

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I just need a bit of clarification.

I was recently diagnosed with HSV2, which I've had for 5+ years as it turns out. My DH had what appeared to be the start of a cold sore (first one in his life) on his lip about a week or two ago. He used a bit of my Zovirax & it was gone within 2 days time.. healed, completely gone.

Now, my question is, if he has cold sores (I am assuming he got it from me) & I have genital HSV2, is oral sex (on me) safe? I take Valtrex daily.

It seems if he already has it, it would be okay. But then again, if he needs to build up antibodies, maybe we should wait so he is not exposed again.

He doesn't care either way if he gets it, but I haven't let him go down on me since my first & only outbreak, specifically for this reason. I'm afraid he will get it worse or get it if he doesn't have it.

Our doctor specifically said there was no reason to have him tested until he has an outbreak if he ever does, so he didn't get tested.

So... any thoughts?

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this is confusing you should both get blood tests to sort out whats what,

if you both have hsv-1 and 2 no worry about any kind of sex act

if thats not the case then you need to determine what is safe to do.

valtrex is certainly cutting your risk and its harder to acquire hsv-2 orally or so they say

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