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Ultimate Desire

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Damaged

Anyone who says H did not affect their sexual labido, are lying.

My question is: How to regain this ultimate desire?

I have a very blessed and loving relationship where time is always on my side, if I choose not to have Sex. It could be sadly because of an OB or just my dead desire for my own remembered pleasure of an orgasm.

I love my partner and he is always mad about me. I am doing my best, but it is not nearly as much as I too would like to find again in our relationship.

All suggestions of encouragement dearly appreciated.

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Guest Seatortuga

Time has been the best healer for me. When I first started having sex after my diagnosis( A good long while, mind you) I was so paranoid, I just laid there like a statue.

I'm still paranoid as hell, but, time heals all....plus using condoms and taking Valtrex to minimize the risk also gives ya peace of mind.

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Damaged

My guy does not need Valtrex, but thanks for the suggestions.

I think the person I need like to ask this question to, is a sex therapist.

Are there any Drs. on line?

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WarriorKing

When I was in marriage there was no holding back. I can only speak for myself there.

On another note, it has been a difficult task to recover from a surprising end to my last marriage for entirely different reasons that H. I thought there would be one day that I would just wake up and everything would be glowing. It didn't work that way. It was like struggling through thick mud with every step, but knowing dry ground lay ahead. The alternative was to sit in the mud. I am on dry ground now.

Maybe you have to fight to get back to where you were. It is a kind of a gift that your partner is there ready and willing to lend a hand.

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JoeTheLionWentToTheBar

You really have to take a good look at how H affected your self image. Its hard to want sex if your libido is connected to negative feelings about H.

I had a female friend who lost interest in sex for years after being a very sexually active dynamic women in her mid 20s and she said "I just don't feel sexy or hot anymore" How did H change the self image of a drop dead gorgeous hottie so powerfully that when she looked into the mirror, and didn't see a pretty, hot, desireable woman anymore. I don't know but it did.

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smithconfused

Damaged: I am going thru the same thing. I just want to be that sexxy young lady again. I have no desire for sex! H has completely changed me. I am in my mid twenties and if I never have sex again, I think I will be good with it.

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Damaged

Thanks for the support.

Joe, if there was word that used to define me, it was sexy. Men still desire me but I know no one would love me besides my partner because of H. H took away my magic. I feel no longer scared or a real prize. I try and brain wash myself everyday that I am always sacred but sometimes know I would be someone's worst nightmare.

Mr. Honest, I agree I need to fight against my negative mental stigma and remember I am always as special.

Smithconfused, it is not an easy. I have done the depression and gaining of weight but it only made me feel more ugly and isolated.

I am now going to the gym 3 times a week and my body appears delicious. I also do this so that my partner is proud to have me on his arm when we are out. I am so grateful to him.

I have lost that loving feeling and it is thanks to H because I do not have the luxury of freedom anymore. I risk harming my partner, and that kills the magic.

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