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Well I haven't been on here in about a month due to lack of internet. Anyways, things have been good. It's been a little over two months since my diagnosis of genital herpes. I haven't experienced any noticeable outbreaks since. I also ordered a book, Living and Loving with a Chronic STD, and it made me feel so much better. I def. recommend this book to anyone new. It has all the information you would ever want to know and it really makes you feel like you are NORMAL. There are so many people that have HSV, it is so common that it is unnecessary to ever feel shunned or alone. I highly suggest reading this book.

But I really came on here to share this story. I just told my first potential partner that I have genital herpes. And it WENT SO WELL. He wasn't freaked out, or judgmental, in fact it really seemed like he didn't even seem to mind so much. We haven't had sex yet, because I really don't feel ready to go down that road again. Also, if I do I need valtrex and everything I can to reduce transmission. But this has given me hope. My life will go on with herpes, so will my sex life, everything will be pretty much be just the same.

HSV is proving not to be the end.

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I am very glad for you. I may be interested in grabbing that book so I can recommend it for new people.

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Awesome post!

I hope everyone reads this, and reads that book!

Take care.


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Okay, here is the information for the book. I bought mine off Amazon used for just 20 bucks. Managing Herpes, How to Live and Love with a Chronic STD by, Charles Ebel & Anna Wald Now the book is a little out dated. For instance, Valtrex was still very new at this point and studies were being done to gauge it's effectiveness. But like I said, it is a really helpful book. I hope it brings peace to some of you out there trying to come to terms with herpes!

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Hey ncl04,

Thanks for the book suggestion! I will definitely have to check it out.

Glad to hear your new partner handled your discussion so well!

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    • MrKyGuy
      I hooked up with a girl yesterday and I lightly kissed her on the lips four or five times - these were not heavy deep kisses.  As she was leaving I noticed that she had a cold sore that was healing (scabbed) on the top part of her lip. My lips definitely made contact with the scab. I’ve never had a cold sore and my last std test was negative for everything . Any chance I don’t end up with HSV1 on my mouth now after this incident? I know it’s not the end of the world but everything I read says these sores are crazy contagious and primary outbreaks in adults can be brutal. Any insight is greatly appreciated 
    • dont quit!17
      From what I understand shedding studies are expensive but even getting quotes and estimates on this especially in a clinical setting would be a step in the right direction. @destroyhsv, maybe you can look up labcorp or quest diagnostics and call for an estimate or any local labs in your area. 
    • MyOhMy2018
      Hello everyone, Long story short - I had my first outbreak about a year ago, got swabbed and turned out positive to HSV-2. For the first month, I only took valaciclovir when I had an outbreak but seeing that I still had back to back outbreaks, the doctor decided to put me on suppressive therapy. This has never really helped, unfortunately. In the summer, I had no outbreaks for like one and half month but apart from that, I've been having outbreaks every other week. I saw a dermatologist about two weeks ago and he swabbed another lesion that was in my mouth, which in turn revealed positive to HSV-1, although I was on valtrex at that time. He seemed very surprised and said that not responding to valaciclovir is something extremely rare... But reading testimonies here, it doesn't seem to be as rare as people think. The last two~three weeks have been the worst for me: my outbreaks won't stop and it seems to be getting worst and worst. 2 days ago, my doctor put me on the non-generic valaciclovir  just to see if I responded better to the "real" drug but this has not helped so far.  I'm a healthy adult, I eat well, get plenty of sleep (I even take naps ) and exercise 4 to 5 days a week. I supplement daily with organic acerola vitamin C (1000mg), lysine (1 to 2g) and magnesium (500 mg to 1g) and take 1 x 500mg valtrex in the morning and evening.  I'd like to hear stories of people who managed to stop or at least reduce their recurrences and what worked for them. I really need help because that is killing my sexual life, and I'm not even 30. I've read a lot of studies on the internet about people developing resistance to ACV and the likes but none of them mentions an alternative solution for people like me. Actually, I'm not even sure I have developed resistance to ACV because the drug never really worked for me. Moreover, the very few acknowledged ACV resistant cases were in majority immunocompromised patients and as far as I know, this is not my case. I wouldn't really care about that virus if I had only one or two outbreaks a year, but having it non-stop is very hard to handle psychologically. I can't have sex, drink, eat chocolate... Even read that exercising too much could trigger outbreaks. What's left for me to do? Shave my head, go to Bhutan, live with the monks and meditate 12 hours a day?
    • vzhe
      I'd participate and pay for it if you figure out how to do a shedding study. I don't think anything other than a shedding study makes sense.
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