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asymptomatic but w/ someone who has obs?

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bcap

im new on this site and i have some questions.

so i was diagnosed with hsv2 at the age of 16 and i got it as a virgin from my first partner but was not informed from him that he had it. i found out i had it from a blood test but i have never had an outbreak (maybe i have i just havent realized it ?) i am in a monogamous relationship now and told my partner that i had the antibodies in my blood but never experienced an outbreak and unfortunately my parnter contracted hsv from me and we know its from me because he was a virgin before our relationship. he hasnt been tested yet but from the looks of it it most likely is. its been hard on us but we are in a better place now.

but onto my questions,

since we most likely both have it can we have unprotected sex when he is ob free? or will it cause me to have obs as well?

and does this also mean he is never allowed to get bjs with out the use of a condom now? what are the chances of me getting an ob in my throat even though i already have the virus?

ill probably have more questions but for now this is all i can think of...

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Guest Seatortuga

I think I have read on here that having sex with someone who is sympotomatic, even if you are not, will cause OB's. This may be on each couple's individual basis, though, so my best guess would be to try and see what happens. Herpes affects each couple and each individual differently,so just see what works best for you and your man.

Also, I *believe* that autoinnoculation can't happen after about 4 months of being infected, because your body has built up the necessary antibodies to keep you from infecting yourself in other areas of your body. Especially since HSV2 is harder to get on the mouth.

Read some info here on the right, it is very helpful!

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bcap

yea ive read some stuff on here but i havent come across information for if both partners have hsv

so anything any one can tell me is a big help thank you =)

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justmyself

Both me and my partner have GHSV2. We have only had it for a little over 2 months now. We do not take any precautions anymore. In the beginning, I was worried about sex causing outbreaks or either of us spreading it to ourselves or each other to other parts of our bodies. But now, we do everything we did before, with the exception of when something hurts me down there. Then we just do whatever doesn't make it hurt. We have both only had the initial outbreak. He is on suppressive Valtrex, while I only take herbs and Lysine. If I don't take my Lysine for a day or two, I get prodrome symptoms, i.e., itching, tingling, nerve pains, but never a sore. So as long as sex doesn't cause either of you to get an outbreak, you are fine. It is different for everyone though. Just make sure you avoid friction, use lube if necessary.

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andli

if both partners has h2, no precaution should be taken.

both of you are free to do everything you want

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Lookonthesunnyside

Having sex with someone who gets worse symptoms than you will not in any way make you symptomatic as well. The frequency/severity of your symptoms is determined by your immune system and other factors that affect your mental/physical health. The only thing that could cause more obs for you is the friction from sex. If you both have it genitally, his obs should not in any way affect yours.

Also, do you have it strictly genitally? Or do you have type 1 also? If you have type 1 you will not contract type 2 by going down on him. Same goes for him to you, however, if you both are only positive for type 2 antibodies its possible, altho chances are verrrrryy slim. Oral hsv2 is rare, and if you already have the antibodies to it it may even be impossible. In the very least it is HIGHLY unlikely.

If he has just contracted it though, he should maybe wait a few months for his antibodies to build before he goes down on you. Even if he already has, its likely he wont contract it orally, and even less likely now that he has it genitally.

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bcap

thank you for the feed back Lookonthesunnyside it is extremely helpful !

as well as the replies from andli and justmyself =)

but yes i have the antibodies for both hsv1 and 2

but i do not know about him considering he has just contracted the virus

his outbreak hasnt even fully healed so we have a couple weeks to keep talking about things in general ad educate ourselves more thoroughly and you definitely helped in that process!

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