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miss scared

hi there

just hoping theres someone to talk to around my age who is affected with genital herpes i am 19

Im having a reallly hard time coping after i was diagnosed a few months ago...i still dont know where i got it from. i always use condoms except with my ex bf who isnt affected (that he knows) and he refuses to talk to me about the possibility he gave it to me.

Ive only had 4 sexual partners and i just didnt think it could ever happen to girls like me. :(

Being so young i dont have any one to confide in and ive been trying to deal with this alone and am not succeeding..

i hear people giving encouraging words to other people and i just dont feel like that. I am struggling to see the bright side or accept that it is a part of me for the rest of my life.

How do u overcome the fear of ever being intimate with another person again?

I dont think boys my age will accept it, or treat me like they used to or respect my privacy.

Ive been so depressed since the day i found out and i want to feel better

help anyone who can relate

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Misty67

Well, I am not your age, not anywhere close to it! :D

But, I can relate to how you feel. It is a very lonely feeling when you are diagnosed. You may never know where it came from and unfortunately condoms are not 100% safe.

I think finding a support group in your area would greatly benefit you. You are NOT alone! 1 out of 5 of us have this! you are very young. You will find someone to except this virus. Hang in there! lots of great info and people with lots of experience on this site.

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