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I have just been tested for herpies 1or 2 or both. I will know my results in a few days I have no symptoms so i am crossing my fingers. the guy who i have been with we have not practiced safe sex. we both are seperated. he has been telling me that him and his wife are just good friends come to find out he has been enjoying both of us sexually. she decided to get tested after she saw me in his bed. she has been tested positive for genital herpies so I went to get tested. he is trying to point fingers and narrow it down. he needs to blame himself for not useing any protection and I am to blame for not insisting that he wear a condom. the finger needs to be pointed at us not trying to narrow it down to who it could of been. it has been a big wake up call for me. weither i have it or not there will always be a condom worn by my partner!

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Butterfly of the Moment

The man or his wife may have had the virus for a very long time from previous relationships/relations with other people before their marriage. And since not one of you have symptoms, it will be very difficult to know who gave what to whom. Almost half if not more of people who have genital herpes/oral herpes, do not have symptoms or symptoms they recognize as herpes. For some people they get a rash or a little itch but never sores. It's possible for a couple to never pass the virus on to eachother even if they've had sex for years. And condoms don't offer full protection. Many people on this forum have gotten genital herpes even when they used a condom. All that is required to pass on the virus is skin to skin contact with the infected area and a condom doesn't cover the entire area around the groin. It's good that you are getting tested, but I would never talk to the prick again.

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JBnATL

Yes just because one person has it does not mean you will get it

even though you have unprotected sex with someone who may have herpes, does not mean you will automatically get it as well. I have had plenty of unprotected sex with non h women and have never passed it along.

Good luck with your test results. Hopefully you are not a member of our 'club'.

JB

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gotitsowhat

Good luck with the test results

But even if you had used a condom, it would not have provided full protection from herpes as herpes can be caught even if you use a condom, as many on here will attest from their own experiences. The truth is, people who get herpes are not careless, or promiscuous or foolish, they are unlucky.

I hope your luck runs good with this one and that it turns out you don't have it. Remember that a swab test must be done on an active outbreak at the height of the outbreak and a blood test must be done at least 3 months from time of exposure to be accurate. And if it's a blood test, then be sure it's the kind that tells which type of hsv you might have.

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misscutiepie88

Best of luck to you... I know how scary this can be..

Live, Laugh, Love

J.

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