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I just found out that my son has hsv2 and he is embarrassed to talk to anyone so I told him don't worry I will help. The girl he was seeing has herpes but said she knew nothing about it. My question is "is it possible to transmitt herpes without even knowing that you have it?" I don't think any different towards anyone who has any kind of STD. Please help as I am hurting for my son. He's a good person he is also an adult but everyone knows he's a mama's boy even him and he is proud of it. Thanks

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So sorry to hear about your son being diagnosed with HSV2. It was 4 weeks ago for me. The man that gave this to me had no idea he had it.

They say that 1 out of every 5 people have gential herpes, and 80% of them do not even know they have it, so yes it is very possible she didn't know she has this virus.

It is great you are there to support your son! he should get an account here, there are alot of great people with great knowledge willing to share!

Good luck to you and your son!

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Butterfly of the Moment

Hey there, that's wonderful you are the type of person that your son could confide in. I don't feel very comfortable telling my mom or anyone else in my family, at least no yet. Most people who have herpes do not have symptoms or recognizable symptoms (sores are not the only symptom). If you go to the doctor, you have to specifically ask for a blood test for herpes testing otherwise you won't be tested for it even when you ask for a full std test. Some doctors will try not to diagnose people. Take care and stay strong for your son. It's hard to be diagnosed with a virus that is for the most part harmless but has a horrible stigma attached to it. It's all in our heads and unfortunately not a casual topic that people talk about.

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I too am sorry to hear about your son. I just found out on Thursday, and although the doctor, nurse, and I are all certain that I have it, I am still waiting a couple of days for the exact diagnosis. The person that I got it from was unaware that he had it as well. He even got tested a few weeks before and is now planning on getting retested.

I think it's great that you are on here for your son and showing your support. I would definitely encourage him to come on here and just read the postings and see what everyone has had to say. It definitely has kept me level headed in the past few days, and everyone on here has so much insight and so many different things to offer. It really is a great place to not feel so alone about the whole thing!

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Most people get it from someone who are unaware they have it

So yes, she may not have known. It is good of you to come here for your son.

It would probably help him to be around others who have this 'gift'. There are several support groups in Canada that hopefully you live close to one. The one here in Atlanta really helped me when I was first diagnosed. Seeing other normal people like me really was comforting.

Here are the support groups:

- Calgary HELP -

P.O. Box 21092 665 8th Street SW

Calgary, AB T2P 4H5

Ph. (403) 228-7400 or (403) 678-3836 messages only CRI- Hs


- Vancouver HELP -

Vancouver, BC

(604) 515-5500

Web: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/vancouverhelp/

e-mail: vancouverhelp-owner@yahoogroups.com

- Victoria Herpes Support Group -

P.O. Box 962 Victoria,

BC V8W 2R9

Ph: (604) 975-1411


- Winnipeg HELP -

1-705 Broadway Ave. Winnipeg,

Manitoba R3C 0X2

Ph: (204)-940-2200


- Halifax HELP -

c\o Room 5014 ACC Victoria General Hospital Halifax,

Nova Scotia B3H 2Y9

Ph: (902) 428-2272


- Hamilton HELP -

Hamilton, Ontario (905) 523-9671

- Ottawa HELP -

284 McEachern Crescent Orleans, Ontario K1E 3KC

- Toronto HELP -

The Phoenix Association

4936 Yonge Street, Suite 134

Toronto, Ontario

M2N 6S3

Ph. (416) 449-0876.

Web: http://www.torontoherpes.com/

e-mail: phoenix_association@hotmail.com or info@torontoherpes.com


- Montreal HELP -

St. Laurent, QC

Ph: (514) 855-8995

e-mail: ruban-en-route@qc.aira.com

Web: http://www.rubanenroute.org/herpes.php

- Quebec City Herpes Support Group -

Sainte-Foy, QC

Tel: (418) 659-6189


- Regina HELP -

P.O. Box 4642 Regina,

Saskatchewan S4P 3Y3

Ph: (306) 779-9005

Good luck to your son.


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Just a side-note...the Halifax number is no longer in service. I know, because I've been trying to call it. Do you have an alternative number for Halifax Nova Scotia help? Thanks, help for herpes is hard to find...

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