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my daughter was recently diagnosised with genital herpes. It has been a devastating time. i don't know how to help.:(

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It's awesome that your daughter could talk to you about it. At first I was too scared to tell my mom, and looking back on it, I should have called her immediately. Just be there for her. I know when I found out I was totally consumed by it and didn't really get out of bed for a while. I wish my mom had been there (I was hundreds of miles away in college).

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I agree with Defined. Just know that you being there, listening to you daughter, and giving her a shoulder to cry on if she needs it can be enormous help in and of itself, Motherslove!

Feeling accepted during this time is one of the most important things, and it sounds like you are doing that for your daughter now.

The best thing that I have found for myself is to keep up with the support groups and forums, stay informed (there are a lot of great books on Amazon.com, where one can purchase them with anonymity), and learn all about what I have. This way, I can remind myself that I am not this virus and will not be defined by said virus.

At the end of the day, yes, it can be hard at times, but it helps to remember that it affects young and old, good and bad, man and woman, and that we are not alone out there.

Thanks for writing, and if you or her have any questions or comments, please do not hesitate to write!

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I just found out a few weeks ago and i haven't told my mom yet. Part of me wants to, for her support, but the other part is scared for her to be disappointed in me.

I think its awesome that your daughter told you about it.. and I know that right now she is probably experiencing a whirlwind of emotions.. Just be there for her and support her..

No amount of crying or being angry can change the fact that she has it. Help her to embrace it, and move through it, to become a stronger person. Having H doesn't change who she is. She is still the same person as before.

Best of luck.

Live, Laugh, Love


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Learn all you can about this virus

And have your daughter come here as well. The more you both know about this virus you will realize that, for the most part, it is a relatively common, harmless virus.

Have her come to the chat room. She will meet many people just like her. She will see that most have moved on and accept this disease and do not let it define who they are.

Also, hopefully you live near a metro area where there is a support group. I hear Detroit has a huge group that meets frequently. Here are the ones in Michigan:


- Metro Detroit HELP -

Metro Detroit Help

P.O. Box 8096, Eastpointe, MI 48021

(586) 447-2699



- Lansing HELP -

Planned Parenthood

300 Clippert, Suite 6

Lansing, MI.

Every 2nd Thursday, 6:30 - 8:00

- Washtenaw County HELP -

St. Joseph Hospital

5301 Huron River Drive Ypsilanti, MI

Mailing Address: PO Box 121 Novi, MI 48376-0121

(248) 788-5816



Meetings: 5305 Building/Education Center Classroom 2

Time: 7:00 PM to 8:30 PM (6:30 PM for new members)

Washtenaw County Help

8390 W. Huron River Drive, Dexter MI 48130

Ph: (313) 426-2613

Good luck!


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