Although I've had negative blood test and swabs out to 6 weeks, (I know early ) if I received oral from a girl and contacted genital herpes would I be having back to back outbreaks and non stop symptoms? I've been having sex with my gf since I made the worst mistake of my life, and she hasn't caught anything? Aren't you most contagious early in infection? I also had a red area appear on my penis that turned shiny and went away in less than 24 hours,, I go back to the dr in a few days, but this is all beggining to overwhelm me and I've never been so sad my whole life, I'm a hypochondriac but these symptoms are real, I suppose
No I'm having a vaginal birth unless there is an active outbreak. Me & him aren't together we been having problems. But regardless of our situation i don't feel this is the right time to discuss this with him.. I just don't want this coming up while I'm giving birth to my baby.
Three months is a very short time frame. It took me about 5-6 months before I started to reach acceptance and feel like I was starting to move forward again. Be patient with the process and don't rush things. Just take each day and you will gradually feel better within yourself. You will still be triggered from time to time, but it won't be as acute.
You have to reach your own closure. If the thought of the guy who gave it to you sickens you, then wipe him from your thoughts. He will probably deny it anyway and that will only make you feel worse.
When you feel more comfortable, it may help to disclose to your close friends and it will propel your healing forward.
But be patient for now
I also found out I have contracted this condition. The first few days I felt depressed, unlovable and tainted. I thought that no one would ever love me. I cried for two days straight. But then I realized, this was no mindset to have. After all, having some stupid SKIN CONDITION (because that’s all it really is) does not mean I should quarantine myself away from all men and let this affect how I view myself and how I view life. Because truly, I am the same person. I am not unlovable, or tainted. I just happen to have a rather unflattering but HIGHLY TREATABLE medical condition. We are all the same people we were before, we just have to change our lives around a little. You have herpes, herpes doesn't have you.
I'm sorry you find yourself here. But you come across as a mature young woman with a pragmatic and healthy view of life and sexuality, which will hold you in good stead once you move past the initial shock that we all go through.
For me, what helped a lot was to open up to the people close to me. It can be helpful to share your experiences with people on this forum too, but when I opened up to my family and friends, it really allowed me to move out from the shadows that secrecy can bring. By doing that, it also helps to reduce the stigma and educate those around us and that serves all of us much better. I have very conservative parents, but as soon as I told them, they immediately leapt to my support. My friends were the same. They didn't care and didn't judge, they only showed support and care. I hope in time you can do the same. Secrets can end up eating your soul away.
It's getting closer to my due date & I'm still very much afraid. The person who gave me genital 1 is the father to my unborn child. I haven't told him about this yet because i don't want this to become an agrument.We aren't together but him and his family will be there for my baby's birth. I don't want to talk about this with him until my baby is born. Can my privavcy be confidential or will they have to tell him what's going on since he is the father. I'm going to have family with me in the room & nobody knows i have this except me. I just want this to be a happy moment for me. Someone please give me some advice