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happydude

Sorry in advance if your experience disagrees with mine. These are just my thoughts and I hope it makes you feel better rather than worse ! :-D

I've been living with genital herpes now for about 5 years.

For the first 3 years I had no symptoms at all. When I had my first outbreak I was freaked out, I went through a serious stage of shock, anxiety, fear, etc about it. It really made me think about what is important in my life, relationships, etc. Ultimately I tried as hard as I could to focus on mastering emotions about it and to focus on the reality of how it would really effect my life.

Some people may be worse than others but ultimately it has not greatly impacted my day to day life, nor any of my longer term goals. I don't take any medication and don't pay too much atention to what I eat. I have had the occasional breakout when I get sick but life goes on. I would describe the condition as really more of a slight inconvenice than anything else (both socially and physically).

At the end of the day it's not HIV, it's not cancer and it's much more common than you think!

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just diagnosed

Thanks for your post, it is a relief to hear that after the initial shock and emotional roller coaster that everything really will return to normal. I too never had any symptoms and found out through a routine STD check. I still dont have any symptoms so it is just weird to know that I have it, but have not and may not ever "see" it. I hope I don't, I started taking Valtrex daily just because I am so scared/stressed that I may have a breakout. I am pretty sure I have had it for about 4 years but never showed signs.

Do you find it hard to date/have sexual relationships? I am single and the thought of having "the talk" makes me ill. The man I was dating when I found out last month has stopped talking and taking my calls all together. So I have already dealt with one rejections and it really stings.

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happydude

In my experience getting over the social stigma was much harder than dealing with the symptoms. I had to remind myself of that often. Even so I have to admit it did cut deep initially.

Now I am comfortable playing it safe and letting the person I like know when the time is right (admitedly not easy of course). Unfortunately for me it means keeping more emotional distance than I'd like and reminding myself that nobody is perfect.

The new person I like might tell me something worse about themselves and how might I feel then?

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