Jump to content
World's Largest Herpes Support Group
Sign in to follow this  

I could really use some help

Recommended Posts


Hey guys,

So my life has been hell for the past few week. I'm a very obsessive and worrisome person. About a week ago I was at a strip club and a stripper got close to me and kissed me on the mouth. I wasn't thinking at the time but immediately when I got home, I realized how disgusting that is.

Anyway, I got a sore throat and jaw about 4 days later. Wasn't sure what to think because everyone I live with is coming down with the flu as well. Well today is day 7 and my sore throat is nearly gone but for the past 3 days I have been panicking, totally certain that I contracted herpes. I noticed a few flesh colored tiny dots on my lips this morning. I am not sure if they have been there before or not but naturally I took them showing up as a sign that my fears are for real. My lips don't burn or tingle but I am going to assume that that phase is on its way or occured in my sleep. Either way I rushed out and bought abreva and applied it about an hour ago.

I'm totally lost now. I feel like I want to die. I've skipped my classes for the past 3 days and haven't done much to get out of bed. I have read a lot on this forum and felt like it was time to reach out.

I want to get tested as soon as possible, but don't know how long I have to wait for results to show up.

I also have a girlfriend of 3 years who I love and I have been waiting to say something until I was sure it was Herpes. I also have been minimizing contact with her by saying I'm really sick.

What should I do????

I know you have all been here before and I'm not sure what my next move should be

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Hello and welcome!!

First try to calm down! I know that is easier said than done. Did she have a cold sore on her mouth when she kissed you?? and have you had your sore throat checked out?? It takes up to three months for "H" to show up in blood work, however, mine showed up after 2 months.

I have HSV2, so I am not that familiar with oral H, but it really doesn't sound like "H" to me.

This is a great place to gather info!! come to live chat, I am sure there are some folks in there that could answer any questions you have!

Hang in there!:)

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Thanks a lot for the response misty. I've been just staring at the forums waiting for some sort of contact lol.

I didn't see a sore on her lips at all. I have an appointment 2 days from now for a herpes swab test. I figured if the white dots just showed up today, by then they should be at the point where a swab test could be done.

I may just be freaking myself out but I had all the symptoms and now I'm just trying to figure out what I'll say to my girlfriend.

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

And I would love to join in live chat, but it won't seem to let me.:mad:

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Hello ScaredAndParanoid,

I am also a super duper worrier. It sucks to worry about things all the time! Anyways... So this stripper just gave you a peck on the lips and now you see bumps? That is a very brief encounter if you did get herpes that way but I guess it's possible, just not as likely as say if you two were full on making out for an hour. Glad you have decided to get the swab test soon though.

Regardless of the out come of the test and what the doctor says... I think that you need to tell your girlfriend about what happened and about your worries. She might be mad at first but she will appreciate your honesty.

Hope all goes well for you! And try to calm down as much as you can. If it is hsv1, it's not so bad...50-80% of people have it.

Oh and the chat thing...there is a certain number of posts you are supposed to make before you can join live chat. I think it's 5?? Not sure.

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Thanks clover, for every person who talks to me, I feel that my life won't be completely over.

I'm planning on sharing my worries with her tonight. I know HSV1 isn't a huge deal, i'm just worried she had something like oral HSV2. That, and If i'm about to have an outbreak, I have a huge job interview in a week that will really be affected by my appearance.

I just never thought this would happen to me. I would always joke, but I never saw myself as someone who could get it. I always assumed I would have to have sex with someone to catch an std...:???:

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
Sign in to follow this  


Try a Lysine supplement for cold sores

  • The Hive is Thriving!

    • Total Topics
    • Total Posts
  • Posts

    • MrKyGuy
      I hooked up with a girl yesterday and I lightly kissed her on the lips four or five times - these were not heavy deep kisses.  As she was leaving I noticed that she had a cold sore that was healing (scabbed) on the top part of her lip. My lips definitely made contact with the scab. I’ve never had a cold sore and my last std test was negative for everything . Any chance I don’t end up with HSV1 on my mouth now after this incident? I know it’s not the end of the world but everything I read says these sores are crazy contagious and primary outbreaks in adults can be brutal. Any insight is greatly appreciated 
    • dont quit!17
      From what I understand shedding studies are expensive but even getting quotes and estimates on this especially in a clinical setting would be a step in the right direction. @destroyhsv, maybe you can look up labcorp or quest diagnostics and call for an estimate or any local labs in your area. 
    • MyOhMy2018
      Hello everyone, Long story short - I had my first outbreak about a year ago, got swabbed and turned out positive to HSV-2. For the first month, I only took valaciclovir when I had an outbreak but seeing that I still had back to back outbreaks, the doctor decided to put me on suppressive therapy. This has never really helped, unfortunately. In the summer, I had no outbreaks for like one and half month but apart from that, I've been having outbreaks every other week. I saw a dermatologist about two weeks ago and he swabbed another lesion that was in my mouth, which in turn revealed positive to HSV-1, although I was on valtrex at that time. He seemed very surprised and said that not responding to valaciclovir is something extremely rare... But reading testimonies here, it doesn't seem to be as rare as people think. The last two~three weeks have been the worst for me: my outbreaks won't stop and it seems to be getting worst and worst. 2 days ago, my doctor put me on the non-generic valaciclovir  just to see if I responded better to the "real" drug but this has not helped so far.  I'm a healthy adult, I eat well, get plenty of sleep (I even take naps ) and exercise 4 to 5 days a week. I supplement daily with organic acerola vitamin C (1000mg), lysine (1 to 2g) and magnesium (500 mg to 1g) and take 1 x 500mg valtrex in the morning and evening.  I'd like to hear stories of people who managed to stop or at least reduce their recurrences and what worked for them. I really need help because that is killing my sexual life, and I'm not even 30. I've read a lot of studies on the internet about people developing resistance to ACV and the likes but none of them mentions an alternative solution for people like me. Actually, I'm not even sure I have developed resistance to ACV because the drug never really worked for me. Moreover, the very few acknowledged ACV resistant cases were in majority immunocompromised patients and as far as I know, this is not my case. I wouldn't really care about that virus if I had only one or two outbreaks a year, but having it non-stop is very hard to handle psychologically. I can't have sex, drink, eat chocolate... Even read that exercising too much could trigger outbreaks. What's left for me to do? Shave my head, go to Bhutan, live with the monks and meditate 12 hours a day?
    • vzhe
      I'd participate and pay for it if you figure out how to do a shedding study. I don't think anything other than a shedding study makes sense.
    • WilsoInAus
      HSV-2 is only required to be disclosed in some states of the US if and only if you know or could have been reasonably expected to know you have it. There are no laws surrounding HSV-1 disclosure or transmission.

Important Information

We have placed cookies on your device to help make this website better. You can adjust your cookie settings, otherwise we'll assume you're okay to continue.