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Im newly diagnosed, and me and my boyfriend have the same type(genital), caught it from him, but im ok with it. what im worried about, is if we perfrom oral sex, anal sex, rough sex etc, is it going to spread? i have it in a very tiny area near my vagina, but not in it or on it. I dont want to end up with sores every where, and i know i cant neccesarily catch it again. But can we spread it on each other? I'm really surprized at the placement of my OB, (kinda in between my privates) cause it doesnt seem like he would have even.. had a lotta contact there when we've been intimate. I pretty freaked out about having sex with him again, because i dont want him to get an OB somewhere new. (he's never had an OB that we've seen) But if we have the same strain, can that even happen? should we wait till im healed? or can we stop using condoms etc? the damage is already done, and we're getting married soon.. so.. i'm just nto sure how to proceed. I haven't been able to find anything online for couples like us.

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It can spread by itself

Once infected genitally, the virus uses the nerve system to hide and pop it head out. So any where in the genital region is a potential outbreak spot. Just use common sense, like not having sex when you have an outbreak and look into taking supplemental meds to help prevent transmission and you should be fine. Since you both have the same strain this will help prevent you from reinfecting each other.

I have had this many years and have had plenty of sex with non h women and have never passed it along. I have also been in h chat rooms and have chatted with married people who say they have been married for years and they have never passed it long to their spouse.

Good luck.


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sun seeker

Hi There

Im wondering how long you've been with your BF because i believe from the initial OB it take 3 to 6 months for anti-bodies to build up in the bodies system. During this time whenever the virus is active, where ever it touches becomes a potential OB area..

I have several OB areas, nunny(vagina) internal and external, butt, breast, mouth and right hand.. unlucky huh!!

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if you both have it you dont have to worry unless you this virus is new for both of you..if you have had it for at least a year the chances of it spreading is slim, just be cautious while having an outbreak

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