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my mom is my best friend threw thick and thin and this is one thing i feel i cant talk to her about. all she does i say its my fault i should have left my boyfriend a while ago well we have a baby together and she is 6 months old

he cheated a week after she was born and got herpes from the whore who failed to inform him she had it and i found out 3 weeks ago i have it and im going threw my first outbreak and its soooooooo painful i have not yet told my mom about the outbreak because she just shuns me it sucks because i need her so much right now i cant talk to my boyfriend because i just want to hit him and never stop when ever one of us bring it up

im soooo lost on what to do now or how to live with this

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I know what you are going through. I got herpes from a boyfriend my mother didn't approve of. That made it worse. However, she didn't throw a fit, but said to me: Well, honey, at least it is not AIDS. Sometimes motherly concern is so strong it comes across as anger, but deep inside she must love you a lot to care -even if she doesn't like the choices you make.

Talk to your mum. Not easy, but once it is out in the open you won't feel so alone. You mum will come around in the end.

Some people live with diabetes, or being in a wheelchair, or having herpes. Just don't forget herpes is something you have, but it is not YOU, or who you are.

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Yes talk to your mom

She may surprise you. She loves you and wants nothing but the best for you. Seeing you suffering with this may bring out the motherly feelings of needing to support you.

Do you live near Milwaukee? There is a support group there. I would advise you going to a support group meeting if they have them. The group here in Atlanta really helped me out:

Milwaukee Help c/o STD Specialties Clinic

3251 N. Holton Street Milwaukee, W1 53212

Ph: (414) 264-8800

Come to the Live Chat room, there are plenty of people there you can vent to.

And perhaps you should seek out couple's counseling. It appears your problems stem more from his infidelity than herpes.

Good luck!


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I am not among the many sentimental people who believe, no matter what, that mothers are basically kind hearted saints who will always be there for you. If she is shunning you and her only comments have been that this is your fault, then she is NOT there for you, much as you might wish otherwise. From what you have posted, it doesn't seem as if your mother can handle this subject of discussion very well.

Have you considered seeking out a counselor or therapist? It can be very healing to talk about this with someone who will not judge you and who has a llot of experience dealing with people going through life changes and emotional wounds. It really helped me to see a counselor.

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