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Hi, i'm new. i was just diagnosed this year. i never had a breakout-cold sores on my mouth or genitals. i thought something was strange in my genital area-pretty sure it was an allergic reaction to a lubricant, no blistering-so i went to my doctor and had her do an std test. i was shocked to find out i tested positive for herpes 1 and 2. she said that it wasn't something that was new, that i probably had it for sometime. i've gotten over the shock and since i haven't had breakouts, so far, i figure it's not the end of the world.

i've had a partner for 12 years and when i told him, we just figured he probably has it as well. though, doing research on the computer and finding this message board and looking around on here, i guess there could be a slight chance he doesn't have it. now i want him to get tested. i have a couple questions that i'm sure have been asked before, so sorry to repeat some. it's just that there seems to be so many conflicting things here on the net, it gets confusing.

first, my doctor didn't put me on any medication since i haven't had a breakout. now if my partner is negative, i should probably go on the meds since then it will cut down the chances of him getting it right? i do take supplements that help in the prevention of breakouts and am going to start with some herbs as well. does anyone think i should just take the meds as well regardless?

second, i don't get breakouts but now i understand you still pass it on by shedding. so if i give my partner oral sex, can i pass it on? if he gives me oral sex do i pass it on? i know wearing a condom will protect, but since we haven't that's why i'm asking.

third, since i have herpes 2, even without a breakout, rubbing my genitals against his, i can pass it on?

it's kind of funny(not in a laughing way) that when they started talking about herpes in the early 80's, it was such a big deal. once aids came around, all these other std's seemed forgotten about....i know i did. it seems like herpes is really so easy to to catch and i'm sure there are many people who don't know they have it. i'm not sure about all clinics, but the one i go to for hiv and std's don't test for herpes. i certainly never realized you could have it and have no symptoms.

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I hope these answers help

Taking meds is up to you. It has been shown that taking anti-virals will help reduce the risk of transmission, so it is up to you and your partner on the amount of risk you want to take.

Yes, oral sex by you on him, or him on you can transmit the virus. Since you have 1 & 2 you more than likely have it oral and genital. So you can give it to him by giving him oral, and he can get it from you as well.

The virus is transmitted through physical contact and the virus can reside anywhere in your genital region. So even if your partner is wearing a condom you can still pass it along through contact in areas not covered by the condom.

I hope these help.

Good luck!


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