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Just taking a moment to overcome this shyness and to say hello.

I have been encouraged to refer to the support forum many time in my ordering of supplies. I really don't care much for talking openly on web sites like this,(Don't be offended, I don't care for the blog or facebook site etc, either.) yet, I am a very open person, which isn't always a good thing for me. It's interesting to know that there are people out there who feel a need to open up as well. Sometimes, I feel weird, knowing that I can't really discuss my issue with family members. They really wouldn't understand. I really don't want to appear as if I'm being bothersome to family members, particularly my spouse, because I go through whatever it is that I go through. Recently, I was told that I was whining. So, I am mustering up a little courage to talk to others like myself who do understand.

I just want to say hello for now. I'll see what will become of this.

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The site is anonymous and there are hundreds of people that have similar experiences. So feel free to open up a little.

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Happy Thanksgiving!

Today is my Birthday and I got a Birthday greeting from this site. I haven't been on this site since I was first diagnosed. I found out that it's not a hard thing to live with. L-Lysine really helps with the outbreaks, esp if you take it twice a day but may be constipating. My outbreaks are very mild and last a few days. My life partner is very understanding. I actually forget I even have it except when I'm under a lot of stress and a small blister appears. So, its just a part of life now, no big deal. You can be a normal person and happy and today I'm enjoying my birthday!:birthday:

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Herpes is not a big deal--for those who don't have it!

That is why people will say you are whining when you try to express how you feel; herpes outbreaks can be painful, and the herpes stigma is enough of a big deal to contend with for most of us. I once told a gynecologist who told me that "Herpes is not a big deal," "The main reason you are saying that is that YOU are not the one being diagnosed with it." To her credit, she smiled and agreed. Herpes is a big deal to those of us who have it, especially if we have been diagnosed recently and are coming to terms with it. Medically, it is usually nothing, sometimes it doesn't even have any symptoms at all and over time even those with symptoms have fewer and fewer outbreaks. And the social stigma is more about people wanting someone to feel superior to than it is about anything real--after all, MOST of the population of the world has some form of herpes. So medically, it is not a big deal and the social stigma is more about ignorance and social snobbery than anything else. But coming to terms with it has been hard for most of us. And it does help to talk about it. You are very welcome here. Please feel free to discuss it with us.

I've had hsvGH for about 15 years. Medically, it is not a big deal; I get an outbreak once or twice a year, typically. But it took me a long time to get my confidence back. Now I refuse to be cowed by the herpes stigma. I am ready to face the world again, after years of hiding and being depressed about this. I wish I had the years back I wasted feeling bad and afraid to face the world with this stupid little virus. Don't waste too much time worrying about how people will act when you tell them, just get on with your life. It's like a lot of other things we wish we did not have to deal with in our lives but we do; just keep on keeping on and tell people about it when you feel you have to (before sex, hopefully). Many people will accept it, especially if they care about you. Some people will not. If you are taking good care of yourself and feeling basically happy and confident, you will up your chances of acceptance.

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Try a Lysine supplement for cold sores

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    • MrKyGuy
      I hooked up with a girl yesterday and I lightly kissed her on the lips four or five times - these were not heavy deep kisses.  As she was leaving I noticed that she had a cold sore that was healing (scabbed) on the top part of her lip. My lips definitely made contact with the scab. I’ve never had a cold sore and my last std test was negative for everything . Any chance I don’t end up with HSV1 on my mouth now after this incident? I know it’s not the end of the world but everything I read says these sores are crazy contagious and primary outbreaks in adults can be brutal. Any insight is greatly appreciated 
    • dont quit!17
      From what I understand shedding studies are expensive but even getting quotes and estimates on this especially in a clinical setting would be a step in the right direction. @destroyhsv, maybe you can look up labcorp or quest diagnostics and call for an estimate or any local labs in your area. 
    • MyOhMy2018
      Hello everyone, Long story short - I had my first outbreak about a year ago, got swabbed and turned out positive to HSV-2. For the first month, I only took valaciclovir when I had an outbreak but seeing that I still had back to back outbreaks, the doctor decided to put me on suppressive therapy. This has never really helped, unfortunately. In the summer, I had no outbreaks for like one and half month but apart from that, I've been having outbreaks every other week. I saw a dermatologist about two weeks ago and he swabbed another lesion that was in my mouth, which in turn revealed positive to HSV-1, although I was on valtrex at that time. He seemed very surprised and said that not responding to valaciclovir is something extremely rare... But reading testimonies here, it doesn't seem to be as rare as people think. The last two~three weeks have been the worst for me: my outbreaks won't stop and it seems to be getting worst and worst. 2 days ago, my doctor put me on the non-generic valaciclovir  just to see if I responded better to the "real" drug but this has not helped so far.  I'm a healthy adult, I eat well, get plenty of sleep (I even take naps ) and exercise 4 to 5 days a week. I supplement daily with organic acerola vitamin C (1000mg), lysine (1 to 2g) and magnesium (500 mg to 1g) and take 1 x 500mg valtrex in the morning and evening.  I'd like to hear stories of people who managed to stop or at least reduce their recurrences and what worked for them. I really need help because that is killing my sexual life, and I'm not even 30. I've read a lot of studies on the internet about people developing resistance to ACV and the likes but none of them mentions an alternative solution for people like me. Actually, I'm not even sure I have developed resistance to ACV because the drug never really worked for me. Moreover, the very few acknowledged ACV resistant cases were in majority immunocompromised patients and as far as I know, this is not my case. I wouldn't really care about that virus if I had only one or two outbreaks a year, but having it non-stop is very hard to handle psychologically. I can't have sex, drink, eat chocolate... Even read that exercising too much could trigger outbreaks. What's left for me to do? Shave my head, go to Bhutan, live with the monks and meditate 12 hours a day?
    • vzhe
      I'd participate and pay for it if you figure out how to do a shedding study. I don't think anything other than a shedding study makes sense.
    • WilsoInAus
      HSV-2 is only required to be disclosed in some states of the US if and only if you know or could have been reasonably expected to know you have it. There are no laws surrounding HSV-1 disclosure or transmission.

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