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Denise 07

is condoms necessary?

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Denise 07

I was wondering if condoms were necessary since my husband is + to HSV #1 but not #2 and I have both HSV 1&2? We haven't had intercourse since Oct 30th because I had a genital OB on Nov 4th and I think that I'm healed and was thinking about having sex again this coming Sunday night and wondered if it was necessary since we are both commented to eachother. Can he still get HSV 2 if I'm not having an OB? This is all confusing and I need advice. Thanks!

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mg518

He does have some protection because he is hsv 1 positive. There is still a risk if you have sex with or without a condom. Although the condom is more protection from the virus.

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Butterfly of the Moment

There is some confusion as to whether having hsv1 will protect someone from getting hsv2. People contract both viruses at different times all the time so really the "protection" is too small to wager on. Unfortunately these are two different strains of the herpes virus so there is a risk for your husband to contract type 2 but the risk is small if you avoid sex during outbreaks and you keep your immune system in check. I had type 1 herpes (oral) for several years before i got genital herpes this year. It is most likely type 2 herpes. My boyfriend and I use trojan ecstacy condoms, they feel more natural than other condoms "barely there."

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LadyLove

hsv1 vs hsv2

I thought that if a person had hsv1 then they cant get hsv2....or vis versa. i have hsv2...so does that mean i can still get hsv1?

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Butterfly of the Moment

Well clearly there are millions of people with both types of herpes.

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Soraya1

Not answering this directly, but in a related manner...

When I am in a long term, committed relationship, as I am now, I don't use condoms at all. My partner and I have both been tested for everything under the sun, and I have genital herpes (not sure which type, they don't bother doing blood tests in the UK, that is how little a deal they see herpes as being), and he has nothing.

Our philosophy is, a condom does not provide that much protection anyway – it only covers the penis, not the whole area. We just avoid sex during outbreaks, and for a good time after, when everything is completely healed. We also avoid it when I "sense" an outbreak may be coming – and I can sense these things!

Eventually (as in fairly soon) we want to try for a baby, so condoms definitely won't be on the menu then. :-)

We believe that, as long as we take care, and that i take care of my general health, that this virus should not dictate our sex life. Of course he does not want to catch this, and if I passed it on I would be pretty devastated, but we both know the risks, and what we are getting into.

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