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I have missed job interviews because of this

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It is so hard to get a job right now and here I am in hiding at home again, even though I was called for an interview for a really great job. I told the woman that called that I was sick, but she said the interviews were for 2 set days and I knew I would still look like a leper. Kind of hard to get a job in a medical field when you so openly look contagious.

I missed out on 2 jobs now because of this. I have been so ashamed to go to meetings or to church looking like this. People think so little of you.

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I'm assuming you suffer from cold sores?

May I ask why you're ashamed? Before I had this I had three friends that I often saw with sores and thought nothing of it. Now that I have it, I'm just in the club.

I wonder if you're judging yourself more than others are.

Take care.

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Actually I have been on the same boat. It is not always about judging yourself. I was in hospital in may and my next-bed neighbour was very friendly, (I had a cold sore but had a compeed patch on it so it was less noticeable). I took the patch off (they don't last forever) and she saw me, saw my lips and immediately put some distance between us. Got the same reaction from the nurse.

I have canceled Christmas at my house when I had dinner for 10 already bought. I looked monstrous and I have to say I did not want the possibility and responsability of passing the virus in the middle of an OB. It was my baby's first Christmas and mummy was not in any of the pictures (that hurt). It was the entire holiday season and I wasn't intimate with my husband, forget New Year's midnight kiss. It was also our wedding anniversary and all I could do was hug him like a brother.

I am not ashamed of having cold sores but I am aware people's fear they might get infected :-(

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Try a Lysine supplement for cold sores

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