It is easy to fall back into old habits. Takes a concerted effort and to realise how you will feel if you go down that same path. I thought for me it would stop the casual sex aspect but found it wasnt a problem for those type of guys but i have learned to make better choices
I love everything you said in this post. I was diagnosed 21 years ago and made peace with it pretty quickly. I only learned about the marketing propaganda a couple years ago and I think it would have helped me to know about it in the beginning. It's great how many young people there are now out there publicly fighting the stigma that makes this usually harmless skin condition so hard for people to deal with.
Three months have gone by since I've received confirmation that I have herpes, but I still have my ups and downs...lots of downs.
Only three people know I have the virus; my mother, older brother, and gyno. My older brother and mom are supportive but go through enough on their own so I try not to bog them down with my mess. Every time I want to tell a friend I get too chicken and keep my mouth closed.
Does anyone else feel as if they're living a double life to an extent? I just turned 22 a week ago. I'm super envolved on my college campus which takes enough energy out of me, but I now have to deal with the depressive waves that come with this virus. I've hardly been one to be sexually active until recent so this is all a big shock, guess that's what I get for thinking I was invincible. Guys attempt to talk to me and take me out all the time but I always laugh in the back of my head and think, "hah if you only knew".
Sometimes I feel as if I'm going through the motions now; forcing my way through school , forcing my way through work (where I often see the dirtbag that I contracted it from), forcing a smile on my face. My friends know I'm getting over the guy that did me dirty but don't know the entire story. I have a very personable, outgoing bubbly personality however lately I've been told numerous times that my "light has been dimmed" or I'm "not the same person anymore".
I'd like to think I have a very bright future but can't seem to let this go and it's affecting my productivity. Could be the fact that I haven't received closure (haven't told the guy he gave it to me) partly because the thought of him sickens me/don't know what to say, bunched in with a load of other mess. How can I shake this off?
That may be very well to ask but unless you test for hsv if you have no symptoms you assume you dont have anything. I asked my bf if he knew his hep b status as i have low inmunity. He said he is fine too his knowledge. Do i take that as accurate?
Mostly it lasts 6-12 hours before an outbreak, if it is longer than 2 days then it is most probably something else. It is most often not an overall tingling, but concentrated on the point of subsequent outbreak.
People with herpes have the same chance as those without of experiencing any issue, including back and pelvis issues for example.
For good herpes info, you can do a lot worse than read Terri Warren's book here:
Say you're right... it would follow that the people who are walking around undiagnosed are not spreading the virus... If they're spreading it then they will learn of their diagnosis soon enough from someone they've passed it to who presents symptoms and gets diagnosed..
Hi and i'm sorry you find yourself here.
If it was a swab test, then it is pretty much 100% that it is positive. With swab tests, you can get false negatives because the swab is taken too late and the sore has already started healing, but there is virtually no chance of getting a false positive with a swab test, unless the lab mixed up your results with someone else's. Blood tests are more common for false positives than swab tests.
You are doing the right thing. The quicker you reach acceptance, the quicker you can heal and start living your life again. It will be a new normal that's for sure, but we can all still have very full lives. We are all in the same boat and we know what and how you feel. Be kind to yourself and surround yourself with good people.