i lost the picture of his results on my phone but I remember that it had hsv-1 negative and hsv-2 negative. A misdiagnoses can happen if he got tested straight after having it with someone infected by the virus... But it's been four months. As for my past partner, he doesn't have the right to flip on me though he can just show me the results and shut me up... It's my right to ask for it. If someone asked for my results I wouldn't hesitate, so why did he?
You might not like what i'm about to say, but posts like this a part of the reason that the 'stigma' around this virus is so bad.
So far, you don't have herpes. Yet you are behaving as if you do and further, as if it's the end of the world. So then how do you think people who are positive react to reading your posts on here? Going on STD dating sites in 'preparation' when you haven't even been diagnosed is one of the more ridiculous things i have read on these forums.
You say you are not ready to deal with the stigma if you have it, but can you see that in the space of 6 posts, you have done more to promote the stigma than most other people?
It doesn't usually take this long for swabs results to be determined.....are you still waiting for them?
As long as the swabs were taken within a two day window of the lumps/blisters appearing, then a reliable amount of culture should have been taken to make the diagnosis robust
Hi and welcome @G.anonymous.
The first thing to note is that your past partner is essentially right. Having a first outbreak is nearly always related to sexual activity in the preceding week or two. At this stage you should leave the thought that he is a possible source to one side.
As for your current partner, you do need to check he has had the right test. This will be IgG HSV-1 and IgG HSV-2. Does his test result have these on them?
That will then leave the very real possibility of a misdiagnosis. Yeast, bacteria and other viruses can mimic herpes and be misdiagnosed (and vice versa).
To start off with my story let me tell you a little bit more about myself. Im a 20 year old very attractive young lady and I've only had two partners in my life sexually. And they were both extremely clean. The first one was very highly sexually active, had multiple partners and always got tested every month. The last Time I had sex with him was six months ago. A month ago I had sex with my new partner who happens to be my current boyfriend. A week and a half later I had a very bad infection so I went to an std specialist. She immediately told me that I got herpes. I believed her since it looked exactly like it and I had every single symptom, that's why I didn't get tested. I immediately told my boyfriend and he felt like shit since he hasn't got tested after his last partner ( last time he slept with her was 4 months ago) so he went and got checked and got back the results just yesterday.... They were negative! I was shocked and immediately talked to my previous partner and explained to him the situation I'm in. He told me that he got tested recently and he was clean from everything... Then I asked him if I can see his results... He flipped on me and told me how offensive that is and that it's been a long time since me and him had sex together. Then he explained that he currently doesn't have the results on him and they didn't send it via email.... Something is odd about this and I feel like shit about myself
Wow you have guts for me it could only be 1 of 3 people, but I strongly think it was a particular one because days after seeing him I got the flu and the other guys it could have been I saw 8 months earlier with no symptoms so...
But I never had the courage to write those emails of, "Hey...could you have herpes by any chance?" The guy I think who gave it to me, I wrote him an email about something else and he never responded and I was so emotionally hurt over that to begin with. If he ever writes to me again I will bring it up though.