So you are worried about disclosing and the whole town find out about your herpes but what about the fact that you are seeing a married man and what that might look like if that gets out regardless of his relationship is open. No judgement here but why would you actually be involved in someone like that
More life advice from me.
Cease all contact with this guy and get on with your life. You don't need to tell him anything. He is self esteem comes from fucking as many women as he can while being in a sham marriage.
This is why I always say that herpes is an opportunity for self growth, if you allow it to be.
Never ever accept crumbs from anyone, because when you do, you are basically devaluing yourself and yo are opening yourself up to messy and hurtful situations. I have been there and done it all........swinging, open situations etc. It's all a load of dogsh*t.
You can have a thrilling sex life without getting involved with douchebags who are attached.
Received a HSV 1 diagnoses of 46.60 and 0.91 for HSV 2. The test was HSV 1 and 2- Specific AB, IGG. I wanted to know if it's possible for this test to be wrong. Also, if the test isn't wrong. Why is the HSV 1 so high. Does this mean I'm going to get an outbreak soon? I've never had an outbreak before. Any response will be greatly appreciated. I"m really freaking out. Thanks.
OK male view, maybe with some life experience to help out.
First, if only he has told you that the marriage is open, then I would assume it isn't. It is quite typical for the woman to tell you as the female that her husband is in an open marriage and is interested. Just the way a true open relationship often plays.
Second, as this guy is a 'player' he does so at his own risk and I dare say he knows all the risks. If he hasn't asked for mutual STD testing and asked questions then he has accepted all risks and I would suggest knowingly so.
So I will give you the following advice for free. It is absolutely in your best interests. You are on the wrong path. Cease all contact with this man immediately, no need to disclose or have any form of communication additional to telling him to vanish from your life. Might seem hard, but I promise you, it is the best thing you can do and I think you realise this.
After I've reproduced some of the existing ZFN/meganucleases/CRISPR experiments in vitro (cancerous human nerve cells) and in mice, and confident (enough) in it's safety, yeah I will be looking to administer it to myself. All the necessary equipment and resources are accessible to me and I'm spending every spare waking hour on this. If all goes to plan I'll be sharing my results, and how to reproduce them. I thought I was crazy until I recently learned some other member's are doing the same.
Well I haven't dealt with all you ate going thru but I have same fears. I live in a small everybody knows everybody town so I'm afraid to date due to having the talk. I can handle "rejection" if I'm given that but um afraid of my business being told.. So you want to do right but its like damned if you do, damed if you don't.
Maybe you didn't pass it on. Are you on daily meds? How long have you had it? Hell as prevelant as this has become, him or his wife may have it already. Did you all use protection?