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I am in such a confusing binde

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Katanga27

So I got completely tested about a month ago for everything under the sun, herpes, hiv, everything, so i thought everything was golden. I started dating this girl shortly after who I am 99% sure is clean. She said she got tested and everything was fine with her last bf of 6 months. Now 2 weeks after we start having sex I noticed an ulcer like thing at the base of my shaft where it almost meets my pelvic region or pubic hair line. At first i thought it was an in grown hair but it didn't really heal and I have another red raised bump on my penis shaft that had a hair in the middle so i plucked it, but its still there 4 days later with no improvement. My predicament is that I don't know what to think i just talked with the girl and she is freaking out saying she is clean and was crying. Is it possible that the first test was false negative and i had it all along? I never had symptoms when we had sex and got them about 5 days after our last encounter. If i had it is there a good chance i gave it to her ? I am so upset about this she is a really good friend and I havn't slept or ate in 2 days

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regret

reality is most people dont get tested for herpes unless they specifically ask for it,, people assume when they get tested its for eveything but its not...unless you both go in and have a blood test done, thier is no way of knowing ... what you have may just be a boil, doesnt sound like herpes to me,, go to a dr, to find out before you start flipping out

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Katanga27

I am an RN, and ive done lots of research on it. There's two spotts, one looks lke an ulcer and one looks like a pencil tip white with a volcano indent. The one looks like herpes, went to the doctor and got swabbed she stated "im about 70_80% sure its herpes. If I gave it to her or something I won't be able to live with myself

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alexjay

i know this is really scary, and i've felt the same about the prospect of giving H to anyone else, but the important thing to remember is that you really haven't done anything wrong. you haven't done anything malicious, nor have you misled your friend in any way. i got it from my ex boyfriend, he didn't realise he had it and, for all his faults, i don't believe he would have suggested unprotected sex if he thought he had anything that he could transmit to me (and it wasn't the reason we split up). please remember as well, that nothing is ever 100% in terms of protection and as consenting, sexually active adults we all take risks when we have sex with anyone ("protected" or not). i really hope you get your results soon and that your friend can see that your friendship is the most important thing x

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Katanga27

Thanks for your kind words. She was really mad at first and I asked her nicely and appropriatly if she has ever been tested for it, not accusing her of giving it to me but just to ask. She said she has gotten tested "as a regular part of an std test" but i told her they only do hsv if you ask specifically for it. I'll admit I have been with a fair amount of girls in the past its just really frustrating because I just started to turn my life around, not sleeping around, thinking positively and really making an effort to improve who I am. It would be just such a blow and hard to think positively if this were positive. I mean I have already self diagnosed myself, im 90% sure I have it, my lymph nodes in my neck have been swollen and its been here not improving for 4 days. I know nothing is 100% and where the lesion is is where the condom would stop protecting, which also kind of confuses me even being a nurse. This is going to be a horrific few days even tho I'm expecting the worst. Because there really is no other symptoms that cause open lesions there, well very rare ones.

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