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hi everyone, i'm new here and ound this website and thought it would be good to talk to others that might be going through the same thing and to get some advice. i'm 28 and found out i have genital herpes a couple days ago. i had a blister type bump and thought maybe since i sweat a lot that maybe it was because of that. wrong. i am in a committed relationship and am engaged. we have been together over a year and half. before that i had not been with anyone since a year and half before that. my fiance has been so supportive and so great.he tells me nothing has changed nor will it. he said it's very common and not a big deal to him. he really tries to get my mind off it and to feel good about it. we mostly use condoms and so far he has not had any signs or anything of having the virus. i have dealt with it ok at times and others i feel horrible. i feel like a big germ and it makes it seem so much worse that it's an std so i keep thinking about my past and the whole it being an std just makes me feel dirty and you think about how icky other std's are. i feel so unhealthy now, i keep thinking now there's this virus just living in me now. will it make me sick? will it cause my health to decline? it just seems like so much to think about. i don't want to have to take medication forever. i want to feel like it's not going to effect me and i don't have to meds. is it possible not to have to take meds and still be ok and be healthy? would herbs and natural remedies be safer and equally effective? the dr put me on valtrex for ten days until i have an appt to talk about it and go over further options. i feel like since he's a dr he's gonna put me on any prescription med. have any of you guys taken more natural stuff for yours? is it as effective? is herpes really common? is it life threatening? thanks for reading

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Herpes is very common, especially HSV type 1. It is usually nothing more than a skin condition that may reoccur. It certainly isn't the end of the world, and for most people (after a time to accept it), hardly more than a little glitch. The emotional toll is usually much greater than the physical, and with time becomes less of a deal for most folks. If you use this site to educate yourself, you will find so many answers that will reassure you.

Has your fiance been tested yet?

He could have it without any symptoms. Either way, it would be good for you both to know his status at this point.

Hang in there. :wavey:

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