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hi everyone, i'm new here and ound this website and thought it would be good to talk to others that might be going through the same thing and to get some advice. i'm 28 and found out i have genital herpes a couple days ago. i had a blister type bump and thought maybe since i sweat a lot that maybe it was because of that. wrong. i am in a committed relationship and am engaged. we have been together over a year and half. before that i had not been with anyone since a year and half before that. my fiance has been so supportive and so great.he tells me nothing has changed nor will it. he said it's very common and not a big deal to him. he really tries to get my mind off it and to feel good about it. we mostly use condoms and so far he has not had any signs or anything of having the virus. i have dealt with it ok at times and others i feel horrible. i feel like a big germ and it makes it seem so much worse that it's an std so i keep thinking about my past and the whole it being an std just makes me feel dirty and you think about how icky other std's are. i feel so unhealthy now, i keep thinking now there's this virus just living in me now. will it make me sick? will it cause my health to decline? it just seems like so much to think about. i don't want to have to take medication forever. i want to feel like it's not going to effect me and i don't have to meds. is it possible not to have to take meds and still be ok and be healthy? would herbs and natural remedies be safer and equally effective? the dr put me on valtrex for ten days until i have an appt to talk about it and go over further options. i feel like since he's a dr he's gonna put me on any prescription med. have any of you guys taken more natural stuff for yours? is it as effective? is herpes really common? is it life threatening? thanks for reading

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Herpes is very common, especially HSV type 1. It is usually nothing more than a skin condition that may reoccur. It certainly isn't the end of the world, and for most people (after a time to accept it), hardly more than a little glitch. The emotional toll is usually much greater than the physical, and with time becomes less of a deal for most folks. If you use this site to educate yourself, you will find so many answers that will reassure you.

Has your fiance been tested yet?

He could have it without any symptoms. Either way, it would be good for you both to know his status at this point.

Hang in there. :wavey:

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    • viralfrog
      Having HSV-2 has not bothered me at all for casual sex. I'm just avoiding sex during outbreaks, on suppressive therapy and using condoms every time with casual partners. Since my outbreaks appear on top of my penis, even during an outbreak the risk is minimal if I put a condom on as soon as I take my underwear off.  I guess it might be a slightly different case for a girl as if you have external lesions around your groin you could still infect someone even using a condom. And of course, condoms can break, which has happened to me over 10 times and caused myself to get infected in the first place.  I see it as a much more difficult now having a serious relationship, because I can't feel much with a condom on and really want stop using them. However, I don't want to put my new girlfriend to any risk - I would feel terrible if I infected her. 
    • viralfrog
      Does anyone have experience about people's reactions to Herpes in Asia? Personally I live in Thailand where I also caught the virus as a condom broke 4 years ago.  Unfortunately I infected my ex-girlfriend with HSV-2. This was just after I had caught the virus myself and we had sex before I noticed and realised what it was. In the beginning, a local doctor told me I have just hurt my foreskin with my jeans' zipper and the tests came as negative. After getting tested later it came as positive.  Anyways, my ex-gf (well educated, professional, 26 years old then) she had no idea what Herpes was in the first place. She didn't really care too much about it and didn't bother to get tested. During our 3 year relationship we kept having unprotected sex as usual and she never had any issues until at the end one day. She had a very minor outbreak once and nothing after that (lucky her, no like myself who gets terrible symptoms non-stop). I know she has a strong immune system, because she was never sick despite myself having bad colds quite often. In any case, she could not care less about this virus and didn't mind at all.

      I've seen a lot of hysteria surrounding Herpes in Europe and the US. What has been your experience in South-East Asian countries like Thailand? Do people perceive HSV-2 as a worrying disease? 
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      The full article is behind a paywall but you could write the the authors and request a copy.
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      The jury is still out as there needs to be additional experiments. Editas' results make me believe dosing was insufficient among other issues.
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      Wow interesting !! But how did they provide it to him !! I mean he is 27 years old !!

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