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Hi all

I am from Canada and just leaned alot today. My wife is being tested for herpes because the Doc asked if I get cold soars and she said yes. I have had cold soars for over 30 years and never was told all that I found out today. No Doc ever told me it was herpes or I could give it to others, like my love ones. This is going to take a few days to sink in. To think my sex life with my wife could change over night, if she does not have it yet. I may have given it to her already. Well it is nice to find a place to learn about this and I want to know more. :confused:

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Shayna

Hi wanttoknow,

It seems odd that out of the blue your wife's dr. would ask her if you ever had cold sores. Has she had any symptoms that would make her dr. think it could be hsv related?

Chances are, she already has it, as most adults do, and if that's the case it wouldn't effect your sex life together. Honestly, most long term couples end up transmitting it to their partner at some point anyway, which kind of takes the stress out of worrying about it. HSV, for most people, is really just an annoying skin condition.

There are links to the right of the forum page that have a lot of great information on hsv and how to manage it.

Good luck and welcome to the forum!

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