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hopeful88

So I have been with my husband for 5 years. A few weeks ago, I got a strange cluster of bumps and was diagnosed via culture. So, he went to a clinic to get tested. The doctor tells him that there is no way he has herpes and doesn't know it - and that I cheated on him! I have NEVER cheated. :madd:

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RealisticGal

That is so inappropriate, and certainly violates that doc's oath.

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RealisticGal

Of course. Can you share some of the information here with him --- so he can see that the doc is an ignoramus?

Could you go to a different doc or clinic together, perhaps an STI clinic, where they would let you be there with him?

Tell them of your status, tell them he wants to get tested as a baseline, and go from there.

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hopeful88

Thank you, I'm going to ask him. Wow, I can't believe the doctor told him that.

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hopeful88

Has this happened to anyone else? I was just beginning to try and feel comfortable with this...and now this doctor's "advice" is affecting my relationship. I want to cry and scream at the same time.

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RealisticGal

I've read other stories of this happening. It truly sucks and is the epitome of unprofessional behavior.

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gotitsowhat

Amazing but true...

Some doctors are very ignorant about herpes! I would highly recommend that you find a good STD clinic, public or private, and ask your husband to come with you for testing. Then, after the test results are in, you and your husband can have a talk with a doctor who actually knows something about this. Herpes can lie dormant for years, even decades. And MOST people who have it do not have any symptoms. In order to do a good deed for the stupid doctor's future patients, maybe you could send some pamphlets or info on hsv to this doctor so he won't be so stupid anymore. Or you could be a hard ass and just consult an attorney to see if a lawsuit might be appropriate here. This doctor has done some damage to your personal life based on his extreme ignorance of a common medical condition--please make sure he re-thinks this and learns something.

And see a new doctor. STD clinics are the most knowledgable about this. Also, Planned Parenthood might be helpful, at least as far as information goes. You need a new evaluation and some up to date medical information. If your husband keeps on doubting you, you could try a combination of a lie detector test (call a major detective agency like Pinkerton's) and some emergency crisis counseling.

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solvingtheproblem

A *real* opinion

I have heard of other people on this board speaking with doctors at the Westover Clinic -- essentially having an appointment over the phone. Perhaps that may be one way you and your husband can get the straight information from an expert.

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hopeful88

Thanks for your replies and tips guys :p Unfortunately, this WAS at an STD clinic! Crazy - these should be the people with the most knowledge. RIDICULOUS!

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Shayna

Hi hopeful88,

I didn't have an outbreak for almost a year after I was exposed and infected. I believe the only reason I had an ob at that time was from strong antibiotics I was on for a long period (for something unrelated) and I was in tropical sun. The combination of antibiotics and sun is what I believe caused mine. I haven't had another outbreak since and that's been over 3 years ago. I honestly believe if not for the strange set of circumstances causing my ob I wouldn't know to this day that I was infected.

Some people have no indication they have the virus until the right formula set of circumstances comes along and WHAM, they get an outbreak!

I'm so sorry you had such a bad experience at an STD clinic! That is ridiculous!

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