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Loving2Bme

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Loving2Bme

I'm just curious if theres anyone out there who can relate to what I'm about to post. I just found out a lil over a month ago that I am HSV2 positive. I had a very minor OB & me and my partner of 8ys are back to having sex like normal (but now using condoms) I've noticed that he no longer touches me "down there" to kind of start to get things going & when I asked him about it he admitted to being a lil uncomfortable with it. Also I asked him to get tested just incase I transmitted it to him before I initally found out but he hasn't yet he still wants me to perform oral sex on him! I am currently taking Valtrex ONLY as precaution to my unborn child due in a few weeks but does that "lighten" the chances of transmiting it to him should we not use a condom or he "touches" me there? I'm in the final stage of pregnancy & truthfully I want it all the time :D

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regret

if your taking valtrex daily that should help reduce the chances of him getting it greatly... but if he refuses to get tested i wouldnt give him oral,, why should he benefit from it and you dont? id give him the same excuse.. i dontfeel comfortable with it,, he feels comfortable enugh to have sex with you but not to stimulate you??? come on,, the condom doesnt protect him that much

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Loving2Bme

Oh trust me... I do not give him oral anymore using that exact same excuse! LOL Thanks for the reply!

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