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NowWhat2010

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NowWhat2010

So I just found out a few months ago... and I am struggling to deal with it. I feel like life is over now and I am only 22 years old... I dont' even know where to start How did everyone else get through this?

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Amalia

Hello and welcome.

What kind of HSV do you have? There is a ton of information on the right side of the page. That might be a good place to start. Also, after 2 posts, you can join live chat and get support from other members. Hang in there

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NowWhat2010

genital herpes, I have found out a lot of information... but its not really the medical information and knowledge I need... but thank you.

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Amalia

Okay, you are in the right place for support. Lots of good people here for that.

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chicknc24

yes i found out 2 weeks ago i need all the information i need on herpes so please i need some help

thanks

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checking it out

i dont no for sure

i got herpes i when i had a new years kiss this year spun out got sore eyes same time then had test positive type 1 ten next ob i must have touched down there then it started itching and got really sore took valtrex and came better but doctors wont confirm until they test with swab but if i let it come out will it spread it is only itchy in the groin not on any thing else

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RealisticGal

For WhatNow2010, there is a lot of info in the links to the right that is not about the medical specifics. There is info there about the emotional and social aspects of herpes as well. I assume that is what you are struggling with.

For all of you, if you guys ask some specific questions, I'm sure folks here will try to help answer them.

Please be assured that your life is not over. This little virus can only affect you as much as you allow it to. If you choose to wallow and shut down your life, that will be your choice. But the herpes virus does not make that necessary at all.

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NowWhat2010

Realistic, I 100% understand what you are saying. The problem is, I don't know how to not let it take over. I know I am letting it, but I don't know how not to. All I ever want to do is cry about it.

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CatsCompanion
Realistic, I 100% understand what you are saying. The problem is, I don't know how to not let it take over. I know I am letting it, but I don't know how not to. All I ever want to do is cry about it.

Some wallowing is probably even good, but when you get tired of it (and I know that feeling), get out and do something low-key but pleasant. For example, I like bookstores but I don't usually take time to visit them often. When I was struggling with a diagnosis this summer, I think I spent half of June in the local Borders and Barnes & Noble. I wasn't going to get any work done anyway, so this was one way of not letting the situation keep me down all the time.

It ain't easy. We're here for you, though.

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RealisticGal

It's new. It will become old.

When something, anything, good or not so good, is new to us...it tends to dominate our thoughts.

So right now herpes is new to you and it is taking up all your time.

As CC said, you will tire of that eventually.

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