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Lavendered

I just wanted to share that there are people who don't bat an eye at our status.

I have been seeing someone for the last couple of weeks. We've spent quite a bit of time together and talked about how important honesty is, etc. I felt that even if he ended up rejecting me, that he was honourable enough to realize what I was telling him is private and personal. I told him about ten days after meeting him and he didn't bat an eye. I showed him some literature and then he spent hours doing his own research online. He said that it didn't change how he felt and even had his own blood test done to see if he carries either strain.

I went on suppressive therapy and we've just started being intimate (with condoms, of course). I don't want to get ahead of myself but I do like him and physical intimacy is really important to me so it's nice to see that we're sexually compatible too ;)

I did have a hard time telling him. I didn't act ashamed but I did tell him how I wanted to give him a choice, since this choice was made for me without my consent. He totally appreciated that. I did let out a few tears, because I'm new to this and it's hard to tell someone that you like about being positive.

I'm glad he took it so well. I had a feeling he would or I wouldn't have told him or continued on with the relationship. Gone are the days of casual sex :(

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SummerGal

Congratulations!

Yes, I recently told a friend about my HSV status and she told me jokingly, "You're whoring days are over!" It's not a bad thing that the days of casual sex are gone for us.

And yes, there are lots of people who honestly don't care. But I think a lot of us focus on the idea that HSV is a dealbreaker to a lot of people. And a lot of us have also had horrible experiences with people who have been unkind or insensitive to HSV.

Good luck with your new relationship!

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Firehorsewoman
Congratulations!

Yes, I recently told a friend about my HSV status and she told me jokingly, "You're whoring days are over!" It's not a bad thing that the days of casual sex are gone for us.

I agree. But, not that casual sex is not out there if you want it even with herpes or another STD. Many men on the herpes "dating" sites are looking for casual sex. For me, I was already in a place in my life where all the casual sex wasn't working for me. Finding out I had herpes just put a big exclamation point on that for me. I'm hoping to replace my "whoring days" with something a lot better.

Good Luck Lavendered!!!

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RealisticGal

I am so happy to hear this, Lavendered. It seems like only a couple of days ago when you were in the depressed and "feeling very ashamed about all this" state, and being able to give the talk seemed a long way off for you.

What a super result!!! :rolleyes:

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