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I was diagnosed with genital herpes 19 years ago. I've been involved with understanding and supportive men, but due to circumstances unrelated to my diagnosis, the relationships did not work. I began dating someone about six weeks ago and had "the talk" 4 days ago. I think I'm headed for my first rejection due to my diagnosis, as my phone calls and email messages have not been returned. Feeling a bit down right now...some support would be quite welcomed.

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queennie4

Welcome

Welcome New Kid on the block

Sorry to hear that you are going through rough patched even after dealing with Herpes for as long as you have, even with the knowledge that the internet provide when researching and getting information guides when it comes to the rates of transmission people are still not willing to accept others with Herpes.

Keep your head high and things do get better.

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AquariusAngel

Hi New Kid,

The most positive way I can look at the situation we are all in , is that we have the opportunity to see how strong peoples backbones are, long before other people get to.

If the guy you were seeing is now running, well then thank your lucky stars, because if he runs with something as small as a skin virus, what is he going to do when the tough 'really' gets going? ..for example some family tragedy, one of you loses your job, problems in your relationship etc.

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coolsensation

After reading your kind and thoughtful replies, I breathed a sigh of relief. It's so comforting to know I'm not alone. I'm so glad I found this website!

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