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Hi everyone!

I'm new to this so please forgive me if it gets to emotional. I was just recently diagnosed July 12, 2010, five days after my 23rd birthday. I didn't cry, yell, or scream. I took the pamphlet home and started taking the meds. The first person I told was the love of my life or at least I thought he was. We were not together at the time so I felt the need to tell him because I tell him everything. I felt he would handle it better.

Well we have been through it all and back and forth with eachother for the last couple of years. Well today it has come to an end. We were on the verge of fixing it all and getting back together but now he has married someone else for the money...he is army and deployed yesterday. I new this girl was still around but she was fading away until I told him about the big H. He didn't even tell me her Facebook did. All he said to me yesterday through text message is I love you, bye.

I feel lower than I have ever felt today because I know if this had not happened we would be happy together. I don't even talk to the guy I felt gave it to me and haven't since the end of June. I don't even think he knows he has it. At least I would hope not since he didn't tell me. I trusted him way to soon and because of that I am stuck with this forever or until a cure comes.

Thank you for reading such a long post. Words of encouragement would be nice. if you'd like to share your story with me I'd gladly read it too.

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Hi and welcome

Sorry for the ordeal you are going through right now. I'm wondering did you and your EX have sex? If so I would really think he needs to get tested and so does his new wife!

As for the person you "think" gave you H, he may very well not know, stats suggest that 80% of the people with HSV are not even aware. I would encourage you to speak with him, if he doesn't know, he needs to find out! He needs to stop spreading the virus.

Again, sorry for the pain you are in right now! Do not let this virus own you!

This is a great site! after you make 2 post you can join in live chat, there you will meet a lot of great people willing to offer advise and give support!

Hang in there..

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Yes, I've anonymously contacted the guy. I think he is in denial. I did inform him that even though he may have just gotten an std check he needs to specifically ask for a herpes test. I also told the Ex he should get tested but I think he is too scared as to what the results would be. I told him it is also possible that he has it and may have given it to me even if he has not had an "outbreak". At this point I have done all I can do to make them see the big picture.

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Hope things get better

Sounds like you are going through a really hard time and I am sorry. But it is very mature and smart of you to let the guys know whether or not they do anything with the knowledge at least you are "free and clear" because you did all you could. And dont worry things will get better... I found out a week b4 my 26th bday after my bf of 2 yrs broke up with me because he had cheated and contracted it and gave it to me... HSV is devasting but i found a quote that has really helped me and maybe it will help you too...

"The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places."

You will be "strong" again just hold on to that. (hug)

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