Jump to content
World's Largest Herpes Support Group
Sign in to follow this  
californialove88

when its time

Recommended Posts

californialove88

im scared that when the time comes for me to have kids i wont be able to because of herpes.i want to be able to have kids of my own without having to worry about them getting anything.I want to make it to the point in a relationship with someone where i will be married and having children with them without anyone else suffering consequences for the mistakes i made in my past.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
RealisticGal

Relax, you can have kids

When you get ready to have kids, you can. The docs will do an exam of your birth canal when you get near to term, to determine if you have any lesions at that time. If so, they will schedule you for a C-section.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
californialove88

thanks

Thanks,even though i can still have kids,i still get paranoid.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
RealisticGal

You speak of mistakes you made in your past. This sounds to me like you are placing a lot of blame on yourself for contracting herpes.

Oh, sure. Sometimes we all take risky actions. But that isn't necessary when it comes to herpes.

Herpes can happen to anyone. It doesn't matter so much about good or bad decisions. Many of those who have herpes had little to no information about it and thought they were being totally "safe." Many trusted partners who claimed to have been tested clear of all STIs, without knowing that herpes is not usually screened. This is not common knowledge --- and that isn't our fault.

At any rate, it sounds like you are currently not accepting yourself (because you have herpes). I think if you can get to the point where you love yourself, accept yourself, absolve yourself of blame, you should be able to leave the paranoia and fear behind as well.

Oh, dear. I think I'm starting to sound like a pop psychologist.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
californialove88

Lol you dont sound like a pop psychologist at all.It is awesome advice and you are great at giving it.I have pretty much always blamed myself for getting herpes because i should have seen something like this coming with the partner i was with at the time.he had cheated on me and i decided to stay and i made the decision of trusting him when i shouldnt have,i just thank and pray to god that i only came out with this and nothing else,but at the same time i dont understand why its soo hard for me to accept that its here.i guess its just because of the situation and how i think now of how i could have prevented it.

thanks again

even though i dont know you very well,this means a lot to me and your advice i have truely taken to heart :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
RealisticGal

Hey, we Cal gals gotta stick together! :flowers:

Seriously, we all do make mistakes. Often, it has to do with wanting to believe the best of someone else, and wanting love in our lives. All we can do is move past it and carry on with our lives. And we CAN make things better in the future. Herpes won't stop us from doing so. It's just a speed bump.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

Sign in to follow this  

  • The Hive is Thriving!

    • Total Topics
      69,917
    • Total Posts
      471,958
  • Posts

    • blurneworder
      Your symptoms and photos match exactly what I've been dealing with on and off since October 2018 after I had a a really bad flu that brought about tingling on my lips. It felt like a cold sore was going to develop, but a bunch of tiny white bumps showed up that doctors have yet to fully explain what it is. I also have a constant feeling of a dry, chapped upper lip. A few weeks later the white tongue showed up. I'm also currently dealing with a change in taste in my mouth. I eventually tested positive fro HSV1 months later, but I don't know where on my body it is. I also have discoloration on my the tip of my penis. One dentist told me I had bacteria covering my tongue, and another dentist said nothing looked suspicious. I also get the cut on my tongue.  Prepare yourself for a journey of doctors telling you that you look normal when, in fact, you do not.
    • WilsoInAus
      @CheekyMunkey there is absolutely no way you, me or anyone has any chance of diagnosing what issues inside the mouth might be. There are simply too many issues that create similar looking outcomes. All I can say is that issues inside the mouth are way, way less likely to be related to herpes compared to if you were having issues on the lips.
    • CheekyMunkey
      Hi mate.  Thank you for responding. I do feel better but I think the oral might be the issue. I was looking at my tongue and it looks white. Well whiter than normal. Also about 3 days ago I had a really sharp pain in my tongue which lasted like seconds. Later in the day when I saw it it had like a line cut into it. Is it a lesion? I have no pain in my tongue at all, no fluid filled sores but I noticed that Its shape isn't right. Like a bits missing on the tip of the right hand side. I've added two pics. It looks whiter in the pics then it actually is but I noticed red dots all down near the tip. Could that be something? Herpes? Also, where the tongue goes out of shape there is nothing on that side. I did burn my mouth on some pizza on the day I felt that sharp pain so not sure if that's got something to do with it.  https://ibb.co/zhphnMD https://ibb.co/G0pPRLh Thanks in advance.
    • RNY18
      Personally, I'm still wondering how likely is it China will cure HSV before the States does ?...
    • WilsoInAus
      I’m sorry your still angry, but drop the relationship with the Jay profiles and you will feel much better about life, I promise.
×
×
  • Create New...

Important Information

We have placed cookies on your device to help make this website better. You can adjust your cookie settings, otherwise we'll assume you're okay to continue.