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I was diagnosed with HSV-1 this afternoon and know that I contracted it oral to genital. I am married but have not made the greatest decisions of late. So of course my guilt is eating me up. I have told my husband and he has been extremely supportive! I am very lucky as he said that it sounds like I could have contracted this years ago or from him even and I'll never know and should stop stressing as it is manageable!

I called the nurse several times, asking if I could ever have sex without condoms and if I could engage in oral, not to mention having a second child. She said of course I could when not having an outbreak. Pregnancy is not an issue, they'll put me on meds if I conceive again right before delivery. I then called back asking for HIV testing. I just had a Pap a week ago and the results were fine and HPV was negative. I had what appeared like an ingrown hair that did not get better that prompted my visit to th gyno this Monday. She said it seems unnecessary but again, I haven't made the greatest choices of late, what does everyone think? I'm freaking out that I may have something more serious!

What about a "normal" sex life, is it true? Feel like I'm navigating an emotional mine field!

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your husband should get tested also,, if he has it then you dont have to worry, i doubt if you have anything more serious... just relax your going over the edge here

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    • viralfrog
      Having HSV-2 has not bothered me at all for casual sex. I'm just avoiding sex during outbreaks, on suppressive therapy and using condoms every time with casual partners. Since my outbreaks appear on top of my penis, even during an outbreak the risk is minimal if I put a condom on as soon as I take my underwear off.  I guess it might be a slightly different case for a girl as if you have external lesions around your groin you could still infect someone even using a condom. And of course, condoms can break, which has happened to me over 10 times and caused myself to get infected in the first place.  I see it as a much more difficult now having a serious relationship, because I can't feel much with a condom on and really want stop using them. However, I don't want to put my new girlfriend to any risk - I would feel terrible if I infected her. 
    • viralfrog
      Does anyone have experience about people's reactions to Herpes in Asia? Personally I live in Thailand where I also caught the virus as a condom broke 4 years ago.  Unfortunately I infected my ex-girlfriend with HSV-2. This was just after I had caught the virus myself and we had sex before I noticed and realised what it was. In the beginning, a local doctor told me I have just hurt my foreskin with my jeans' zipper and the tests came as negative. After getting tested later it came as positive.  Anyways, my ex-gf (well educated, professional, 26 years old then) she had no idea what Herpes was in the first place. She didn't really care too much about it and didn't bother to get tested. During our 3 year relationship we kept having unprotected sex as usual and she never had any issues until at the end one day. She had a very minor outbreak once and nothing after that (lucky her, no like myself who gets terrible symptoms non-stop). I know she has a strong immune system, because she was never sick despite myself having bad colds quite often. In any case, she could not care less about this virus and didn't mind at all.

      I've seen a lot of hysteria surrounding Herpes in Europe and the US. What has been your experience in South-East Asian countries like Thailand? Do people perceive HSV-2 as a worrying disease? 
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