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postivelove30

So I had the typical initial OB - 2-4 days after sleeping with someone, unprotected, I had horrible symptoms. Heres the thing thats really upsetting - we were both tested for EVERYTHING, INCLUDING herpes recently. Me, 2 months ago, him 2 weeks ago. Neither had any other partners between. Hes never had ANY symptoms. Had a cold sore like 20 years ago. He called his ex wife and all the women hes been with and noone has it. OR at least has any symptoms. so he's never passed it on to anyone else, most likely And here I am, culture confimed for HSV2. I dont understand. What are the chances!!?!?

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RealisticGal

Seems very strange. What type of tests did the two of you have for herpes prior to the encounter?

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um, i know. im still having trouble believing it. the only thing that makes sense is that hes lying, but hes been a good friend for years and i reeeaaalllly dont think hes lying.

he had an std panel - i told him they didnt test for herpes, but his dr called back and said she did and all was negative. (again, taking him on his word)

i did the exact same thing. all negative. i was with noone bwn that test and him and he said he only slightly made out with someone between tests and me, but nthing at all sexual - oral or sex....

so i thought, ok i have hsv1 cuz he had a cold sore in HS and maybe the make out chick had it...but nope - dr said hsv2 from a culture..can u know the type by culture?

its all so strange, but this is def herpes. it makes NO sense. I'll eat my foot if hes lying. he was so upset and concerened and freaked AND we talked about STDs before getting together.

SO in answer to your question we had blood tests. i know theyre not 100%...but still....

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um, i know. im still having trouble believing it. the only thing that makes sense is that hes lying, but hes been a good friend for years and i reeeaaalllly dont think hes lying.

he had an std panel - i told him they didnt test for herpes, but his dr called back and said she did and all was negative. (again, taking him on his word)

i did the exact same thing. all negative. i was with noone bwn that test and him and he said he only slightly made out with someone between tests and me, but nthing at all sexual - oral or sex....

so i thought, ok i have hsv1 cuz he had a cold sore in HS and maybe the make out chick had it...but nope - dr said hsv2 from a culture..can u know the type by culture?

its all so strange, but this is def herpes. it makes NO sense. I'll eat my foot if hes lying. he was so upset and concerened and freaked AND we talked about STDs before getting together.

SO in answer to your question we had blood tests. i know theyre not 100%...but still....

Okay, but your first post says he had a cold sore in the past. If so, he has herpes.

HSV2 can be oral, though it is most rare.

And it could have been passed to him by the make-out gal. If she had HSV2.

Or...your test could be wrong. There are not many false positive cultures, but it is possible.

If I were you, I would get tested again and I'd try to get him to do it along with you.

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postivelove30

oh we are. but not till Oct. my insurance kicks in in Oct and thats 3 months - when the anti bodies would show up. Hes out of the country until Oct too. So - Oct is the month. But of course, since hes never had any symptoms nor have any women hes been with - he doesnt think it came from him. But it HAD TO HAVE. If his blood test comes back negative I will flip my shit.

He said he THINKS he had a cold sore in HIGH SCHOOL (which was like, 20 years ago for him).....

i mean really - the chances? ridick.

Maybe my doctor didnt do the type test and just assumed it was 2 from looking? UGH

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RealisticGal

Okay, October it is, then. Until that time, just keep your head down and don't stress about it.

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postivelove30

"keep your head down"....does that mean dont have sex with anybody? ha. i dont plan on it. the only ok part about this, for me, is that i couldnt care less to sleep around. Ive gotten that out of my system. I'm looking for love.

I'm sure the culture was correct, but still....makes such little sense.

Thanks and I'll let u know

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"keep your head down"....does that mean dont have sex with anybody? ha. i dont plan on it. the only ok part about this, for me, is that i couldnt care less to sleep around. Ive gotten that out of my system. I'm looking for love.

I'm sure the culture was correct, but still....makes such little sense.

Thanks and I'll let u know

"Keep your head down..." Hmmmm...

I'm not really sure what the hell I meant by that. :dong:

(hee!)

But yeah, I sort of figured you wouldn't be gettin' busy in the interim.

Take care, and good luck in that search for love. I am so there with you. :wavey:

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