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So this past Friday I had a meeting of men at my house to talk about the aspects of "How to be a Godly man". It was a good time in which "we men" actually opened up. There were many things discussed but one thing seemed unanimous. People have unrealistic expectations going into relationships and unrealistic views of who they really are. We put so much time and energy into making "the list" of things that we want in a partner and ironicly sometimes we cant even meet these expectations our selves. This goes for both sexes. We have become so "independent" that we forget we are completely dependent on other people, and urn to find that "someone". I implore everyone to seek the persons inner core beliefs first(Are they kind?,Just?,Selfish?) and if they have good core beliefs its a better start than what society tells us to find first. Hollywood has fed us a lie! Real mature relationships are difficult and exhausting and you will not have that infatuated feeling always, it will come and go. Mature people have reasonable expectations of there significant other and strong core beliefs that define them.

“Coming together is a beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success.”:cool:

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hey slim!

Good post! Very true, expectations are hard to over come tho. We all have them whether we want to or not. I was in a class and they told us to make a list of all the qualities we want in a partner. We were all writing furiously and all had these great lists. Then the speaker told us that when we became those qualities that we would be ready to date, and have the expectation of those qualities in someone else.

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Very good! I believe my qualities in a mate are pretty simple. I basically want a best friend kind of deal, and I want to be their best friend. lol You know like me and him verus the world! I really like this post, so deep.

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Awesome post I agree! How'd that book go? What was the title?? So cook that you're involved in a men's group! I'd enjoy chatting with you sometime :-)


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