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My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, he cheated on me 2 years ago. We went through a hard patch of a trust issue...he shortly developed cold sores and had an outbreak as well in his gential area which lead him to the doctor and a diagnosis of HSV-2. We ceased sexual relations to deal with our relationship whether or not it would work out. We grew from the cheating and the diease...though we have not had sex. We love each other but I was schecked out and have no herpes and I am scared of being intimate...We share a very stable relationship now, and have become engaged as we do love each other, but I am not ready to infect myself as he tends to have 3 outbreaks a year and coldsores.

We do want to have children and I do want to have them naturally. Is it possible to have them without risk of infection. I am also worried that the baby may contract it through intercourse.

I do want t be supportive but I also realize sex is an integral part of marriage. My boyfriend does realize it and he does NOT want to infect me, but we are very cautious and worried.

I know its difficult and maybe I am not being sensitive enough. Any thoughts pls.

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There are many...

couples where one has herpes and the other does not who have very happy, healthy and NORMAL relationships/marriages including children.

Just talk with your doctor about your options. If you don't feel comfortable with what they tell you, get another doc. There are so many out here that are sensative to the needs of families such as this.

Hang in there

Gayla

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