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Hey everyone!:wavey:

Im a girl, 18, from Panamá(The central america country not the city, people often get confused :p) So here goes my story.

I've been in my current relationship for about 2 years now, my bf and I were both virgins, like EVERYTHING virgins(oral or any kind of sex). We waited for almost a year before we had sex and nothing wrong happened until a week ago. When I saw the blisters got really scared, told my bf right away and called to get an appointment with my gyno. She told me exactly what I expected to hear from all the research I did online, that it DID look like Herpes.

I just couldn't understand how I got it. I got tested that day and I'm getting the results tomorrow. But I'm a 100% sure I DO. We assume that if I in fact have it(then again I'm sure I do), I got it from him, who has an oral type and had something that looked like an open cold sore just weeks ago, who would thought that was herpes?! You know most people get oral herpes from childhoold and stuff...but we are still not sure. He still thinks we have a hope...

It just makes me mad an sad. I waited almost a year to have sex with a boy that I loved and knew he loved me back, then I had the guts to tell my mom so we could go to the gyno and get prescription for birth control shots that I put monthly. NO chance of pregnancy for me. I'm an intelligent girl I thought. What was the chance of worrying about STDs?! I am the one who tells my friends who have casual hookups to be safe, to worry about them! I sometimes wish I had something worth regretting for...

The thing I've been dreading is telling my parents, since they knew I went to the doc. They've asked me already what's going on. I just had to make sure I wasn't a monster before telling them, that I was still a normal human being. Can you imagine? Daddy's little girl has herpes? I find this way worse than the time I told them I was sexually active. I fear that the'll blame my bf for this...:(

This got way longer than I intended it to be...I found this website to be a fantastic way of info and support. I just want to say thanks.

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I can only imagine being in your shoes, Antioch. It would be quite awkward, for sure. But it sounds like you are a lot more open with your parents about sexuality than I was at your age (oh, so long ago).

At any rate, I guess you feel like you have to tell them? That's too bad, because this is private, personal medical information (in my opinion). You should only tell them if you want to --- without any pressure.

I think you have probably figured out the way you could have gotten herpes, if you have it. Since your BF had an oral sore, it is a pretty good chance you are right. Don't feel bad that you didn't know that. People twice your age or older often don't know it either.

Anyway, you have found a good resource here. :wavey:

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I agree with Gal, you seem to have figured out more at your age than I had by age 44! It does sound like that is the way you got it, via the cold sore, oral sex route. Read up on all the information that you can, and I would just tell the parents that it is a yeast infection if they insist on getting in your business.

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I just found out I have it as well. I can understand you being scared to tell anyone too. I'm pretty young too, and I know my parents wouldn't judge me and would support me if I told them but I just won't be able to because I've always been looked at as the "responsible daughter". I'm single now, but I've decided not to tell anyone until I have the necessary "talk" with someone (which is scary...finding a boyfriend now seems impossible). I think it's important to accept it for myself before I get close to anyone, so that might be a while. I'm not one for talking on forums like this, but it's nice to know that there are people that I can talk to without judgement. I got it from someone who I've known for a long time who straight up lied to me, and I feel horrible about myself for letting my guard down and trusting him. I could never not tell someone when I need to, no matter what. I'm not scared about having the virus, I know I'll be ok, it's the being alone that I'm scared of.

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Thank you so much for your support!! It means a lot to me.

I just feel like telling them, they're extremely supportive and I know it'll be ok after a while, I'll have them by my side. I just wish I didn't needed to.

Nina I also think is very nice to have people to talk to. The social stigma this virus has, you don't get it till you are in this position...I live in a "third world country", and thou I LOVEE my country people here are not exactly open minded when it comes to this issues. I can't even find information about herpes, or stats about it here. I feel like I'm alone and the only one dealing with this. Its even difficult to find sites like this one in spanish. It's really sad, I feel reaaally lonely about this. My bf is a much more strong person than I am, I think this is a positive thing since I have someone to rely on. But I got really frustrated when he just staid calm while I cried my eyes out. But it's getting better...and I know it will get even better with time. He have to stay strong :)

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