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I'm in my 20s and I'd never had sexual contact of any kind with anyone until about 2 weeks ago. I met a guy I really liked and we talked about taking things to the next level. He told me he always was safe and used condoms and honestly before all of this I had no idea how herpes was spread or that it is not routinely tested for.

We got together on Nov 19th. We did not have penetrative sex and he did not really perform extended oral sex on me--it was more like two brief licks to my vulva. He did penetrate me with his fingers and we snuggled for a bit naked. That was it. Cut to three days later and I have a lot of external vaginal irritation and burning pain in my legs at night and some back and abdominal pain. I did notice some thick odorless white discharge for a day or 2 but I was about to get my period and that's not entirely odd for me. The following week I developed swollen lymph nodes under my right arm and two days ago a small ulcer appeared on my inner labia.

I went to my Gyn and she did a swab test and ordered a blood test. Everyone is telling me "oh it's unlikely it's herpes" but I am so scared and worried. I don't understand why the test results take so long when you can get HIV test results in a few days now.

My question is, how many people here have contracted herpes from skin on skin contact? I know there was some oral sex involved in my case so an infection is possible but I am just so puzzled and depressed. I feel like I have waited for so long and now I may be stuck with a disease for life without even having truly experiencing the joys of sex. I guess I was naive, but I never thought these were high risk behaviors. I wish I could undo this but I can't.

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Hi & welcome to the group RRPHMMS

Wait for your test results to come back & try not to stress in the meantime [easier said than done I know]. In the meantime, it's probably a good idea to check out the info here on the right hand side.

Your Gyn has done the right thing with the swab & the blood test. Hang in there xx

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I will find out my results in 2 days and I feel exhausted. I have been on this emotional roller coaster for almost a month now and I want a resolution. I had actually started feeling great again, little to no irritation, weird burning symptoms then this morning I noticed a large pimple near my clitoris and I can see next to it another is trying to form. I also have something similar on my right labia. They don't really hurt but they do itch. I could believe waxing could cause irritation on other parts but these are not spots where hair grows. I just can't believe this is happening. I don't know if I should go to my doctor again. It seems pointless when my results are supposed to come in soon.

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It might still be an idea to make an appointment. At least you can find out your test results & repeat them if need be. If you need to be swabbed again, then it can be done!! You can get a script for meds & anything else that may need doing. And yeah, that waiting IS frustrating!!

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Hey RRR, Let us know the outcome. I will tell you just from my experience- all was VERY painful. What you describe does not sound like my outbreak, but as Kitty said, going back to the dr. is a good idea. Your gyn is the only one who can tell you for sure through tests.

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