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Hello all,

How exactly to start this...I'm not sure how detailed and graphic this site gets, but here goes.

A few days ago I noticed that I had some discomfort in the nether regions, just one spot was painful, and sort of felt like a bug bite. Now, days later it has morphed into an open sore that is pretty uncomfortable. I have an appointment with my Gyno next week (they couldn't fit me in today) to have this issue checked out. Meanwhile, I have been rabidly "googling" images of genital herpes, as well as the symptoms of first outbreaks. All of this research is just freaking me out, and making me anxious as all hell. I guess I'm just preparing myself for the "what ifs", and I'm starting to really come to terms with the idea that it could be genital herpes.

If anyone would be so kind as to share the symptoms of their first outbreaks with me,

I would so much appreciate it

Thanks, and thank you for making me less entirely geeked out.

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Hi hon, sorry you are so freaked out. It's pretty typical at this point. The photos just make things worse, don't they?

I'm sorry I can't tell you anything about what to expect as far as first outbreak from personal experience.

But what I can say is that, if you possibly can, find a clinic (like maybe Planned Parenthood or the like) that can get you in right away --- quick like a bunny --- so you can get the sores you have swabbed and cultured while they are still fresh. That is the only way you can get an accurate result on your test. Waiting until next week is going to be too late, more than likely. And you may never have another outbreak, so this could be your only chance to be sure of what you are dealing with.

Good luck and keep us posted!

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Hi. I agree with RealisticGal - you need to get your sores swabbed and cultured asap. That will give you the most accurate results, plus you can get medicine if needed to start healing asap.

I will share my symptoms of my 1st OB with you (Which started exactly 2 weeks ago)...

I basically went to bed and hadn't noticed anything before I went to bed. After I used the restroom in the middle of the night, I could feel it was a little sore when I wiped. I woke up and it was still a little sore. I had a few TINY blisters and the area was sore/painful. A few hours later the blisters were gone and it just looked like a cut or something. I, too, googled about H and from everything I read I didn't have any of the typical symptoms. I did have some irritation and discharge on the day I went to the doctors, but nothing before that day. Honestly, mine was barely even noticeable. A little uncomfortable at times, but not really painful (from what I have read, I have been pretty lucky since I had a pretty mild first OB). That is my story. I actually went to the doctor because I thought I had a cut from my clothing rubbing against my skin...

The best thing to do is go get it checked out asap. The images online aren't helpful and, personally, they freaked me out more. That way you can get the sores cultured and you won't be sitting around waiting, worrying, and freaking out. (Although, you will have to wait a few days for the test results from your culture). I hope this helps :)

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Thank you both for responding, I'm feeling a bit better...and looking forward to a concrete diagnosis on Monday. Hopefully the beginning is the worst! (mentally that is)

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Hi Gossamer,

I agree with RealisticGal and norcallove (both who have posted comments this week that have been lifesavers to me)-see if you can get checked out ASAP to get a culture. As for my story, I was diagnosed a week ago and was totally shocked because I had never had what I thought were true herpes symptoms. Then, the more I thought about it, I remembered a time last Spring when I thought I had a really bad yeast infection. When I urinated, it stung (so different than a bladder infection, because it was my actual vaginal lips that stung). Being the nurse that I am, I got out my little mirror and looked at my vagina, and all I saw was a long red crack/line, almost as if my underwear had rubbed up against me when I was working out (especially since I made the stupid choice of wearing thongs at the gym one day). I never even associated this with herpes. I even called my own MD, and he said it sounded like a yeast infection. I, too, googled all the pictures, as well as looking at all of the lovely genital herpes pictures in my nursing books. Once again, I never thought I had it. The point I'm trying to make is that a lot of people, both men and women, don't realized they have genital herpes because some people don't have any symptoms, and others have symptoms that are very mild and can be confused with a yeast infection.

I hope this helps. You are not alone, I promise! :)

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Hello- I was just diagnosed today so I am unfortunately still dealing with my outbreak- so it is fresh in my mind. At first I thought it was a urinary tract infection, as it really burned when I urinated. Just last night, I found these bumps in my labia, under the skin like big pimples, with a whiteish top. And a little blister thing around the clitoris, and major red chaffing that looked raw towards the bottom of the vagina. When my gyn told me I didn't have a UTI, I knew I had genital herpes. Went to the gyn again to have them look at it, they tested it, and sure enough it was herpes. Blisters and burning are two major symptoms, so keep a look out for that. Hope you get your answers soon, and best of luck.

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