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Hi everyone. I just recently got diagnosed with HSV this past week. I am not sure of the type yet since my doctor confirmed it just by a physical exam, but the blood test results will be coming back sometime this week. It has been hard. I'm a 21 year old senior in college. I never thought this would ever happen to me. I've always been somewhat choosy with my partners but unfortunately I trusted someone and they betrayed that trust.

Regardless, I am trying to stay optimistic. I have looked at a lot of support sites and it makes me sad that so many people are so depressed. I know it's something that is hard to deal with because of the stigma of this disease, but I see it that I am still young and have my whole life ahead of me. If someone does not accept me for this then they are not worth keeping around in the first place. I don't believe I will be alone forever. I am a good person like I'm sure you all are too. We are all capable of loving someone and being loved by someone else whether or not they have this.

I know I am not someone who has had this for long yet, but to those of you who are struggling; please stay strong! Life is unpredictable and bad things happen to good people but these experiences make you stronger. You need to have a positive outlook and keep yourself healthy!

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Hey there bud,

I totally feel you. I am also 21 and never thought it would happen to me either, lol. What ever happened to trust in a relationship? Last I checked, they were supposed to be based on it. However, like you, I'm also making conscious effort to remain optimistic because while herpes can be annoying, it's nothing compared to other things that could happen. HIV/AIDS, cancer, paralysis, or a Discovery Channel I-Shouldn't-Be-Alive-type scenario to name a few.

Not sure if you've checked these sites out yet, but they are worth reading in my opinion, especially if you're HSV+.

http://herpesisnormal.com/

http://SpecialUser1234.com/herpes-telling.html

http://loveinthetimeofherpes.blogspot.com/

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Hi Sc,

Welcome to the forum and thank you so much for sharing your story and offering words of comfort and strength to others on the site. As Surreal and I both know, it totally blows to find out that someone hasn't been honest with you, someone who you loved and trusted. I like your attitude about your future, and you have inspired me to keep thinking positively about mine. Thank you.

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Hi! Welcome to this site. Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sorry you were betrayed. I just wanted to say that I love your attitude!! I was really upset right after I left the doctors, but after finding this site and talking to my friend that night - I started to feel better. I have decided to remain positive and not let this skin virus ruin my life. I was worried my current BF was going to leave me, but he has been great. That helped a lot. I feel like I basically have the same attitude as you. This isn't the end of my life. I am 26 and I know I still have a lot of living to do. Basically, I look at it now that I am the same exact great person I was before - as you are as well. Plus, how people react when you tell them says a lot about their character. A lot of people on this site have pointed out it is a great filter! Keep up the positive attitude. I know you'll be fine. Thanks for encouraging all of us to stay positive, it is nice to hear encouraging words from others. :)

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Thanks everyone! I appreciate it. :) Glad I could help a little bit Sunshine. And thanks norcal. It helps to hear that the person in your relationship is supportive. I hope to find the same when I am in a relationship. It gives me hope. :)

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Welcome sc1989- I just got diagnosed with HSV2 this past week and am a senior in college too- putting quite a damper on my finals week! It sucks when you hear about "other people's STD stories" and then all of a sudden, you are part of that group. Makes me feel scared about the world, like who can you trust, or how can you count on something when there are these viruses that just creep out of nowhere? I know it'll get easier with time. Stay strong :)

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